Sober-curious. I'm a habit driven drinker. I don't know what to do when I'm not drinking. I know I need to break the habit. Will I be able to break the habit? Will I be able to re-learn drinking in moderation? SHOULD I re-learn how to drink in moderation??
Feeling scared & overwhelmed.
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Look into The Sinclair Method
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What have you learned about "moderation" ? Has it worked out for you before? For me it always led me down that same old road. If you are anything like most alcoholics then the answer is no do not pick up a drink. I can speak from my own experiences and it never works out. Trust me I've done extensive studies into such matters. Always ends up with the same ending. Save yourself the wonder. Don't drink and go to meetings. It's a simple program for complicated people.
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I struggled with those questions for over 40 years! But this time around, after a bartender cut me off 2 yrs ago next week. I finally accepted that I will never be able to drink like a normal person again! Sure, I know I can drink again. But I'm finally done with that miserable research!
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I should have added that I'm doing this with the help of AA meetings
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I have felt this way. The Big Book calls this restless, irritable, and discontent. I thought I was just bored and didn’t fit in anywhere else. Turned out I was not at ease in my own skin unless I had a drink in me. If you react to alcohol the way that I do, there will be no re-learning moderate drinking. Once I put the first drink in me, I’m not slowing down until the end. I could stop for periods of time for a long time, but the time between those intervals became shorter and shorter and shorter and then I couldn’t.
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Thank you for the advice. I am at the beginning of my journey, and just starting feels impossible. The Sinclair method seems like a good fit for me, and I feel like I have the support to go this route. It will be a good starting point.
Thanks again 
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