Hey guys , I got sober about 2 and half months ago, and I’m a student at LSU. I’ve been having a hard time meeting girls or getting anything started. Does anyone have any tips for sober college dating? Like I feel like I’m 15 again.
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Some Colleges have sober groups? Something to check into?
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I can relate bro as a 41yo being out of the scenes and loops and now, recovery… I met someone on here tho. I’ll let you know how it goes ❤🔥:rainbow:
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Try going to a young person’s meeting near you! I’ve been in graduate school since getting sober, so it’s a bit of a different environment, but being young and sober can be hard! The most important thing for me has been finding people who are fully accepting and supportive of the life I want to live. If a date feels inconvenienced by your sobriety, they aren’t worth it!
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Yeah man please do, good luck to you man!
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I suggest not dating in the first year of sobriety.
I started going to AA rooms when I was 24 and felt like the youngest. Four years later in the same rooms and I feel like the oldest 
For me, my perception of myself and how I thought others viewed me impacted how I was viewing the rest of the world, especially in early sobriety. Community and people who support this incredible positive change you’re making for yourself will come.
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Why is that if you don’t mind me asking?
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Not at all.
So it was suggested to me as well. In early sobriety we tend to be processing a lot of emotions and dealing with the wreckage of our past. Relationships in this time can tend to be solely about filling a vacuum left behind by whatever drink or drug we have quit.
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Also I started drinking young. So most of my interpersonal skills were developed while intoxicated. I needed to develop those skills sober and realize who I actually was. All I knew was the drunken version of me. If that makes sense.
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I'm with ya. I found college dating to be rather difficult. Keep trying different things.
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Try church or a study group.
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I'm with @matt138539. Relationships, during the first year of recovery, can be difficult to maintain. However, it's still commendable to meet new people that will help tech you how to create and maintain healthy friendships. So that you may, one day, create and maintain a healthy partnership in the future. Congratulations on the 2 months! Let's go for 3 
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