Sober dating is tough. Initially I thought I could date

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#1

Sober dating is tough. Initially I thought I could date someone who drank occasionally. Now I know I want someone who doesn't.

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#2

It definitely is a struggle. I have a hard time with it myself.

#3

Same

#4

Same here

#5

In the beginning I definitely felt that, fast forward almost 3 years and I feel the same as you do. I think you’ll be happier moving forward sticking to what you know you want. It may take more time, but it’ll be worth it.

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#6

I tried dating the first time I got sober.. I ended up relapsing. Here I am again almost 2 months sober. I won’t be dating for a long time. Sober dating is definitely awkward/hard for me. You’re not alone.

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#7

This is so painfully true for me too. I thought I could handle dating someone who drank regularly but now it’s becoming a problem and I’m starting to get triggered by it. I just can’t.

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#8

I haven't dated in almost 30 years and trying to do it sober is only adding to the challenges. But then I am reminded that I tend to find what I want when I DON'T go looking for it! :slightly_smiling_face: