Perfectly said.
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I think you just need to be upfront about your desire to be a sober dater. Good quality sober guys (and gals) are out there- but there are more drunk frogs, than sober, warm, loving princes. Hang in there and when you least expect it- youāll find a winner who is meant to be with you.
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Not worth your time. Someone will come along when you least expect it. Two years sober on sept 1st. Iām just starting to date again. Iām 60 and have a 12 year old and a 5 year old. Thatās the really hard part.
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Yāall know another of this app is a dating? 
Iām just sayingā¦ 
Iāve been in the sober recovery battle for awhile but am finally getting on track. Iām married to a man who likes to socially drink and itās made it so hard. So happily married but feel so left out a lot of the time so I get it in a way? You got this sister!
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Dating sucks period!!! Llol
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I can totally relate. It makes dating harder than it already is. I agree completely with being totally upfront.
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I could tell you he's an idiot, but you know that. I cab also tell you that you're awesome, but you omow that, too. So instead I'll just tell you I had 2 eggs and croissant for breakfast. Betcha didn't know that! #win
I have no issue with people drinking around me, ao I just don't understand people that have one when people DON'T drink. I took a woman to a friggin beer festival not too long ago (she planned it). 
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Youāve got the goods Stacy, no need to settle for someone who isnāt comfortable with choices youāre making for your OWN life.
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If they don't or can't understand then they aren't the one. From co workers and friends trying to set me up with a date to trying myself to talk to someone it just doesn't matter. Someone who cares for you and about you will present themselves. It's been a couple of months since my last date and I had to get up, leave some money on the table and walk away, they had nothing but criticism and angst instead of any kind of supportive anything. You'll find someone just keep loving those close to you and stay safe!
I get very heated when people are like if you have problems or had problems please pass. That shows the immaturity and they don't know how to handle life's situation. We aren't broken, we aren't fixed because there is no fix but we are on the mend daily. If they can't respect your wishes then bounce on them. Not worth it. I flat out say I will not go to a bar or club even before a date. I'll go to dinner and they can have a drink just not pounding them. You are attractive and will get a good one!
Just part of the filtering out process. If an individual is authentically interested, emotionally balanced, and a good person they would be comfortable in simply getting to know you without the need to alter there state of being. In other words, he did you a favor. Keep going. Eventually you'll connect with a guy who understands. For now, know you are the best company you can provide for you.
Just say by Felicia..
Itās hard AF. I always explain before meeting that I attend AA, I donāt think is fair to spring it on them on a date. Some are supportive, other not. Today I have a first date with a woman for lunch, when I told her she said āthanks for being so open and sharing that with me, now I know how to be supportiveā. Obviously I asked her out, weāll see how it goes. Realistic expectations are best.
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Story of my life...
At this point in my life I need to surround myself with people who are focused on their mental health and living a healthy lifestyle. I donāt look at my not drinking as an issue or a handicap. In my mind the other person should be attracted to the person I am. If they have a problem with it, we are obviously not going to be a good match. This applies to friends and family as well. Today I choose to spend my time with like minded people who are on a similar journey of self discovery, and finding peace and happiness in this insane world. They can enjoy a drink every so often, but if itās a tool they use to deal with lifeā¦thatās a no no for me
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I feel this 100 percent . It's like they consider us boring now .
We are far from boring. You know whatās boring? Listening to a bunch of drunk people slobbering out the same story Iāve heard a thousand times before! Iāll be attending a neighborās Halloween party Monday night. Itās become an excuse for them to get drunk and have a good time. Iāll show up and hang for a little while., but if or when itās starts getting ātoo muchā, Iāll excuse my non boring self because they are boring me. Sometimes we need to flip the switch and change the narrative. Letās be mindful that we are not boring. Itās not us ānot drinkingā thatās the issue. Itās them and their drinking which is boring. We need to find and connect to like minded people. That is the solution to our social difficulties
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Youāre awesome donāt change!!
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You are amazing!
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