Feeling awesome! I'm a single 42 year old mother and haven't had a drink in almost 2 years. I've noticed the dating world sux because men (and women for men) seem to have an issue with me not drinking. Who cares. As long as it's good company it shouldn't matter. I went on a date last night. Dinner was great. Minute he wanted to go have a drink after, suddenly we aren't compatible. Man, I have my shi$< together, workout often and have a great career. What an idiot! Is this how it is now #feelingpretty
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Guess he was scared of a attractive non drinking lady lol.
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Been 9 years I don’t know how to date anymore lol
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Yes this is a weird thing for me, being a bit shy socially as it is, "drinks" was always my go-to suggestion as an ice breaker date, now I feel like I've got nothin Lol 
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I had a sober relationship with an amazing woman who was sober too. It didn’t work out but I don’t regret it and I’ll find someone again when the time is right.
I’m in the same boat as you. Single parent. 49 years old. 2+ years sober. Daughters 10 and 12. It’s hard but at the same time I’d rather be single than with the wrong person.
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Drunk dating isn't much better....
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It’s rough, especially when you move to a new town. I just moved to Florida a few months ago, and I don’t even know what I’m doing when it comes to dating:joy:
Everyone freaking drinks
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Hey Stacey, I know how you feel? I got divorced and I got sober but it's so hard to find the right person either way? I've dated women who were well off but had a lot of issues. Everyone has baggage but I guess it's how much you want to tolerate? I like being with intelligent people that have their S together too! Forget the fact that you are beautiful, hope you find happiness soon.
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Remembering the drunk girl i picked up (who threw nacho cheese all over my car) helps me stay grounded and makes me accept the waiting. Anyone asks why I don’t drink, I make it fun, they can take it or leave it. You’re beautiful and strong. Wait for the gentleman that sees all that and more.
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I get that!
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It's not better. It worse
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It's worse. That's my point. Sober dating should be appreciated.
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And for some reason we have the problem lol
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Guuuuurl it’s a whole other world dating sober! 14 months sober and also a mom. During the last date I went on, the guy drank alcohol in front of me. It didn’t bother me but I just don’t see how that could work. I know the god of my understanding has something so worthwhile waiting in the wings, when I’m truly ready and willing to accept and give love without codependency.
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I didn’t date when I first got sober but my wife and I had the best 3 1/2 years of our relationship until she died unexpectedly. Time takes time. I went in on date a few months ago and it was okay but it was the only time I have dated. I still have grief issues and question if I want to be in a romantic relationship at all. But I am open to having a life worth living whatever form that takes.
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True dat
I literally just ended a dating situation because my schedule and life are just too busy with my kids, recovery, and work. It felt like I was having to make it fit and it was really uncomfortable having to end it because she was a great person. Just not meant to be. That's okay too, though. I have faith, my higher power will put the right person in my path eventually and that life will just fit with them without having to settle or neglect the things I need to stay sober.
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Sober dating is definitely more difficult. I would prefer a sober woman but those seem to be extremely rare. So I’ve tried to date women who drink. And I’ve found that it typically doesn’t work. Either I get looked at strangely in the beginning or later on when I don’t feel like closing the bar down. But drinking aside I think my tastes have changed with my sobriety. For the most part I know what I want and I know what I won’t tolerate. I believe true happiness is out there I just have to be patient!
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I'm 40 and it seems dating sober I just keep finding worse and worse people to try and make things work with!!! I'm praying it's like staying sober and I'll make it work one of these times.... But ready to quit... Most definitely
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Drinking is just so normalized today that if we are not on the opposite persons level when it comes to drinking or partying they see us as an out cast before even having the conversation with us about why we don’t drink and how great our lives are without it. Not that it should matter but the shallowness of other people really shines through when they try to make us feel like we are crazy or less than for not drinking. Don’t let it discourage you. Keep trying to find your person. You’re worth it!!! I’m on the same path so I feel you!
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