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It is not easy when all people want to do is go out for drinks. I haven’t found any tips yet.
Get out of God's way and let life happen! 
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Having the same problem. My only tip is to continue to put yourself out there in the recovery community 
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Don’t settle for less than what you deserve
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I’m currently with some one who never drinks and I must say it really keeps me on track for not drinking and it makes the relationship a lot easier too
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I'm dating a women and I'm in college, I'm finding that her job makes her feel shame and guilt since we have gotten so close, I e fallen in love and I can't turn it off it's a whirlwind romance. Ahh I so badly do not want to feel that emotional state but I'm freaking hooked like she is. I wanted her to meet my Mom but I'm finding that the true meaning of our relationship is at this point sexual connection is on fire and she is not one of us and does not do anything. So it's a foreign thing but Im having to find what's important my sobriety or a relationship. I'm having to look inside deeply. We did decide to try to take a break but I'm not sure we will be able to stay away from each other. So there inlies the issue. Ahh I recommend to never settle draw on your higher power and forget the rest. One day at a time
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Dating is tough anyway. Dating is tougher in sobriety. Here are some thoughts. Take what you want; leave the rest:
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have at least ONE full year on sobriety under your belt.
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ask yourself WHY you want to date…If you want to meet someone and see if they could be ‘your person’: ok. If you are looking for someone to ‘complete’ you: not ok. You should be your fully formed ‘self’ before you date another, and;
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make boundaries. What’s important to you? Don’t just give in. First put boundaries around your sobriety, including what you will and won’t do. And DON’T skip meetings to go on a date. There’s no quicker way to relapse. I’ve seen it too many times before.
On that last point. If you’re dating for the right reasons, and you find someone that enjoys a drink (like a normal person; not like an alcoholic). You need to be clear - upfront - what alcoholic behavior you will tolerate; and what you won’t. Etc. They ‘overdue’ a night of drinking (not just one time!…a LOT)…if that bothers you, it ain’t worth it. You can change your attitude, but you can’t ‘fix’ or change someone else’s behavior.
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So I see a therapist who said I’m totally ready to date
I’m not a full recovery as I’m not an alcoholic at all
I have trauma and the alcohol is the symptom of such
I don’t go to AA as it has a religious hue
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Come the the secular (non religious) AA meetings. No praying, none of that stuff. All sobriety and character defects and dealing with life in a practical, non mysterious, non supernatural.
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Don't settle
It just really does suck
I have been clean again for 5+ years and this site has the wrong Facebook account on here. I am surprised that know one has liked me or communicated in anyway. I’m on another site and I get liked at least 5 x a day. I don’t get it. However, I am keeping hope alive!
I agree with all that I have read. I make it clear that I’m a recovery alcoholic and that doesn’t bother people. However, some have displayed problematic behaviors. I spoke to my sponsor about this site and she was quite impressed! I know this is long as crazy.
I will not settle and that is refreshing. I am looking for a serious relationship with some one that have many years of sobriety. I was sober for more than 14 years and had a relapse. Now, with all that said, let’s see how this goes! I am agnostic and that is something I am upfront about as well. 
Admit it. Your not ready for a relationship.
I have not had much success dating someone not in recovery.
It's the most important part of my life and the Most important thing to have in common..
Best of luck 
