So I find myself settling due to my not drinking because it’s so hard to find someone who is ok dating someone who won’t. Tips would be appreciated 
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Yep - it’s a whole different game now. I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one!
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Right there with ya Sister. We can’t settle. We’ve all paid a big price for our life of sobriety and the amazing work we do to live happy , joyous, and free. Their loss! They are missing out on some amazing people.
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I dated someone who was sober and 2 years into our relationship they relapsed and no intention to be sober again. It’s hard…
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I think "settling" is mercurial in nature. We all kind of settle for someone in some way or another, especially in dating. Maybe it's a Midwest thing, people who won't date people that don't drink? Seems kinda weird. People in the Midwest seem to be very connected to their drinking, maybe because the Midwest is so boring and the weather sucks? Sports? Do you go to meetings? Maybe a good place to meet no drinking people.
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Anyone would be lucky to be with you!
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I’m in the same position. Been divorced 5 years, sober 3+ and have been alone through out sobriety. I’m very honest about my past and going to AA… I have to be, but it scares a lot of people off, or they live a lifestyle that couldn’t work with mine. At 51, sober, in the best shape since my 20’s, financially secure, etc… I didn’t expect it to be so hard. It can be VERY discouraging.
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I wish the dating option on this site provided long distance connections. There are no member in my area and am not against some long distance communication. LOOSID TEAM, please provide broader searches. Thanks
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Idk what to say. Do sober stuff. Meet sober people. There are a lot of us who got sober in our 30’s/40’s who still have a long life ahead and are seeking companionship.
When I was drinking, my criteria for dating was more primal, shall we say. I connected with other lost and broken souls. It was about “having fun” which really meant s€x and partying. I couldn’t have recognized a good match for me if she punched me in the nose.
Now I’m living my life. I met a person and it was great until it wasn’t. But it was sober and I learned so much about myself. So now I’m single. I’m operating on a different time table. The right person will come along at the right time and until then I’m enough for me.
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I think it's very strange to hear these stories. Who are these people that WON'T date someone that doesn't drink?! Sounds like their problem, not yours, and a bullet dodged.
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You’ll find one sober guys exist and they’re not settling types
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Anymore, My personal opinion, anything is a gamble. Can't live sheltered at all in life. I gotta just get out, do me, be me. If rest world not on my page oh well, there loss . I guess we can live as the world was flat lol.
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Thanks
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I’ve given up on dating…
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Why?
I don't get it. You go to job interview, you go to movie, you go to a state park, it's 50/50 if you get it, or like it.
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Not being a a!! I've just changed my thinking.
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Stay single until you know your worth
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Hillz No it didn’t work out for my A$$ got more addictive then I was before Real Talk
I am in a very similar position. It sucks.
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