I totally get it. When I got sober I found something I had lost. My laugh. I mean, a deep down, tears rolling down your face laugh. You’ll find people in recovery agree. Keep an eye out for sober friends. They’re not so bad.
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Now that I'm sober I finally see I'm the normal one now. I just watch the drunkenness and remember when I acted the same. Never judge them. Just glad I quit.
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Glad you are reaching out. I love to be your sober friend.
I cam relate. Who you choose to associate with are key parts of this. Any good friends, are ones who know you are trying to stay sober and won’t put you in a position that could tempt you. Ones who say “we’re all meeting at a bar come alone” really don’t seem to be ones who care about your struggle. Choose wisely. You will see which friends are truly friends. I have almost 3 and a half years sober now and more TRUE friends then I ever had when I was drinking. Things get better. Not easier! But more manageable. I’ll gladly be your friend!
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I really relate to this. Feels like everyone I know and everywhere I look = the opposite of what I’m trying to do. Reading the comments of other like-minded people helps sometimes, so here I am. Hope your good days outnumber the bad.
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Make new sets of friends. I got sober by making lifestyle change. Started going to the gym. Then after that it was religion. Became a Buddhist monk. I’m alone too but it’s ok.
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I’m in the same spot. Kinda restructuring my life and making sobriety my priority. I sent you a friend request if you want to connect! I’m also having a bit of trouble finding people around my age that want to be sober.
I know it can be hard and sometimes it feels like it’s a struggle to just get outa bed, I’ve been there, if you ever need to talk to someone please don’t hesitate to message me anytime
Even though AA is far from perfect, I’ve met some really great friends there. I also go to events with the phoenix, a national nonprofit that has free sober virtual and in person events. I’ve had fun and met good people! Thephoenix org
Have you considered looking for groups or accounts near you? For example, there are a few sober NYC Instagram accounts with fun sober events
Stay strong!
Do you have a sponcer ?
I completely understand! I felt like I was/am completely giving up my social life. Where do I go now, what do I do? Where are females and males my age that don’t party. I find that every time I go back to hanging out with them I relapse. I can’t relapse anymore! This is my last chance. You can do this if I can I promise! I lack self control and patience! When I get nerved up or anxious I pick up a drink! Maybe we can help each other Erin!
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I totally understand where you're coming from but it is true when they say change people places and things I had to do the same thing I had to quit my job because I was around a toxic employee I took the risk and everything worked out it's definitely not easy hang in there
After managing my entire social life with drinking for years, I lost who I was as an individual and found my identity in who I became under the influence. It took me coming to Christ to surrender and find who I was truly intended to be and feel comfortable with who that person is. It’s a completely different lifestyle and community but so rewarding and I have learned such a different meaning of confidence. I hope the best for you! Thanks for sharing!
Usually you can find some sort of local sober community online. You're not the only person in your community, in your age range or with similar interests that is trying to get sober. Maybe find some sober locals you click with and set aside one night a week to just associate with them
Where are you at?
I get just how you feel, I'm finding it hard to do anything for that same reason. I would also love to find some like-minded people who enjoy doing things that don't involve drinking.
Same here.. It was always so easy to relate to people when drinking but now it feels like being a stranger in this state that revolves around it. Keep strong to your goals as I will try also. Going on a year and 3 months now and have decided if I ever go back I will be sure to eliminate the chance of any possible dangers I'd put myself in. Congrats on your goal so far!! 
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I feel the same, I’m in LA and I just feel it’s a constant party and I can’t go, not to dinner or brunch. I don’t feel I’m strong enough. I hate this disease
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