I’ve been trying to be sober for 2 years now and it’s just so hard when everyone around you drink and it’s so normalized. I feel alone. I need supportive sober friends. 
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It's not easy but your gonna have to surround yourself with people who don't drink
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Hi Erin! Hope you find the support you need in this community. Lots of really solid sobriety and caring members. Hang in there! You can do this!! 
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I understand 100%, don’t want to stay in the house all the time but ALL my friends, family are drinkers. So I have now started to go places to meet new people like art galleries, poetry nights etc…..
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You can go on eventbright to find all kinds of good stuff. Hope that helps
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Hi Erin, finding that balance between old friends and new sober friends can be hard. Are you in any sort of recovery program? That’s where I found most of my sober friends besides here on Loosid. There are a ton of different recovery programs, including The Luckiest Club, Recovery Dharma, SMART Recovery, Celebrate Recovery, and AA. Try getting plugged in somewhere and start reaching out to make connections. You are welcome to message me here.
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I am currently in a recovery group but new so it’s been alittle uneasy.
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That make sense, it can be hard taking that first step to reach out. The way that I pushed through was by just asking a person that felt right if they wanted to grab coffee. It’s one of those things that will be easier as you practice it more.
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You have a pretty good network here
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You need new friends
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Remember what fun was as a kid. As a kid it was fun to have fun.
At some point when you first started, it was fun to have a drink.
After a period of time( different for us all), you drank to have fun.
Then you drank to drink. Probably got pretty good at it too.
Find something that is just fun for you to do. Just like when you were a kid. You can even do something from way back that you remember as fun. ( Don't knock fingerprinting til you've tried it!)
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I used to think drinking was normal too.. then I changed my peer group.. and found out just how crazy I had become! It’s not normal.. you feel like it is but more people then not don’t drink all the time.. I started hanging out at gyms .. churches.. coffee shops.. not bars.. change it up and you will succeed
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When we make friends, we tend to choose people who have similar interests as we do. So if we drink our friends drink. If we play golf, our friends play golf. If we fish, our friends fish. So it’s not that everyone drinks, but it’s more likely that the connections you’ve made that evolved into friendships began during occasions where you were drinking. I can say for certain that was the case for me.
So when I chose sobriety I felt like you do now. And I went to meetings and the occasional bbq or fellowship with my group. And I met ppl. And then I met their ppl. And soon I met someone at work who was sober 6 years and I had no idea. And another person who had just hit 14 years. And then Loosid ppl. And this network of amazing beautiful sober people appeared and I forgot all about feeling left out by my normies.
And now when I travel, I go to meetings with ppl I’ve met through sobriety and it’s fun.
For instance, the next time I’m home in Albany NY where my dad lives and I grew up, I might hit you up and check out a meeting in Hudson. I lived in Valatie/Kinderhook until I was 11. I took swimming lessons at Hudson high school. And I’m generally home for a few days every August. So maybe we can grab a coffee and share some war stories some day.
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Hey Erin, you should be really proud of yourself for making that decision. Your life will change for the better in so many ways. They’re are a lot of great people on this site that will help you and encourage you. Always hear to chat if you need. Keep up the good work!
You need to find sober friends for support. You won’t get good support out of drinkers
go to an AA raise your hand and say i’m new. i need help. that’s a start. get numbers
Hola
Yes! We all need sober fiends 
Hi Erin!
You are on the right way to keep yourself from people who are doing that. If you have a car or any not drinking friend then try to go visit some interesting places. It will help.
I no drink about 8 years. It was BEST decision in my life. If you'd like to know about some cool places you can contact me:blush:
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Wish you to be strong 
and focused on your good dreams!
Ive been sober for a little over 2 years but really only have close friends who consistently party. It’s tough, I feel your pain