Hello! I am four months sober and need to make some friends. All of my friends drink a lot and I feel left out a lot of times so, I don’t have a lot of fun anymore. I am 21 and in college, so obviously alcohol is everywhere. It sucks feeling like I don’t belong and I really want to belong somewhere. Hopefully I can hear from some people! 
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Welcome to the group!
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I hear you! Turning 26 tomorrow and to celebrate all of my friends would love to go out. I on the other hand, would rather have a chill day at the lake (without alcohol). I live in a college town (Norman, OK) and the people around here are mostly college kids who want to have “their” fun. I get it but a solid sober friend group is super important.
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Also 4 months and some change sober. You got this 
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Welcome! Feeling left out because you don't drink sucks. You won't feel left out here!
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Thank you!
Yeah that’s how my friends are I’m in college so that’s all they do so we’re gonna branch out lol
No way! That’s amazing
Congrats on the sober time! It can be tough feeling like you’re missing out bc you aren’t in the drinking scene. I just remind myself of all the little things I’m grateful for that I know I wouldn’t have if not for sobriety. Meetings are also a great place to build a network of sober friends.
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I absolutely can relate! Most everybody I’ve met in this city I met back when I was bartending, so finding sober friends has been a challenge for me. I’ve been trying to find activities labeled Sober to find friends, like sober raves, sober clubs etc. maybe there are similar things in your area? Good luck, thanks for being here, you got this 
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That was really helpful thank you so much!
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I am four months sober and in the process of making new non drinking friends. It is great, and so different to finally do this at age 70!
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This is definitely the challenging part for me as well. Dropping old toxic friends and trying to pick up new sober friends. Just choose people that actually care about your well-being. Kick the rest to the curb.
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You pick.don’t let them pick you.lot of meetings in dc.Va..
Hi McKenna I feel you girl it’s been hard on me also. I left everything and everyone! Now I’m living alone and in a new place and I don’t know how to make those new connections, always just went to the clubs for that! It’s a new way of life for me and I know if I stick with it I keep praying God will put the right people in my life 
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Hello! Feel free to reach out!
hi lgbtq friend from VA ! I’m not close by, but wanted to say hi, and that I hope you’re finding folks to spend time with.
I know it’s so hard to be sober when you’re young but trust me, even if those friends don’t see it right now they will realize how fking cool you are for doing this. or if they don’t, others along the way will. don’t give up, stay strong, and continue to light the way.
could you consider starting a club at school for sober / sober curious students to just spend time once a week doing a fun activity? just a thought 
I feel yeah dude! I lost friends from my drinking, and when I got my DUI that really put the nail in the coffin for me. I got 4 months to so congrats on that. I’m 24 so I’m not this wise old man haha but I would say to just keep working on yourself and Focus on school. It’s hard because I’m left out a lot but I know and tell myself things are gonna change. I enrolled back into to school to get a degree and hopefully through that to move out to a new place I can just hit the restart button and be a better and different me. Good luck it’s hard my dude I feel ya on this a lot.