Sober Support Network

Recovery
#1

So.. I've been abstinent for a year. However, I've been in recovery for only a few months. That is to say that, before a few months ago all I did was remain abstinent from all alcohol consumption. I didn't actually try to fix any of my defects that led to drinking in the first place.

Now that I've been in the rooms for a bit, I find it's hard to form a support network. I get numbers from people, but nobody has actually been there when I've needed them..

It's also hard for me to find a sponsor. There haven't been very many women in the meetings I've gone to and even fewer who have the experience of being a sponsor and even fewer than that who are willing to be a sponsor.

I guess I'm just looking for any advice on how to build my support network and find a sponsor.

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#2

Have you tried groups that are women only? Also perhaps try voicing this at a meeting, I bet some people could give you recommendations. :green_heart::frog:

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#4

Along the lines of what Sophia wrote, if you’re in a smaller town, maybe try some women’s only zoom meetings.

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#5

Thank you.

#6

I have thought of doing this. It seems to be a pretty practical route if in-person meetings aren't helping.

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#7

Try any tools available to you

#8

I could only give you what I was told I was told to find someone who has the recovery that you want and ask them to sponsor you and that was how I chose my sponsor

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#9

Thank you. That is helpful advice :blush:

#10

Yes it is more common in smaller communities to have limited sponsors.

#11

Get to more meetings if possible. Travel if possible. Zoom meetings if necessary. Give it time. Work the steps to the best of your ability in the meantime.

#12

There are women only AA groups in my area. Maybe look for one. I agree women are scarce in AA meetings even though I suspect there are as many women as men alcoholics. Not sure why other than fear of going alone?

#13

Seek out women's meetings. We have several home group members who have serious clean time, that did a large portion of it White Nuckle. It's never too late to get on the bus!

#14

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#15

I wish you well on your ventures

#16

I love you made the difference between abstaining and recovery!! Patients and a lot of meetings will find your sponcor. I’m the meantime I suggest reading lots of literature