I booked us a pass that got us multiple shows not realizing there was another step involved: using the pass to buy the tickets. I can’t blame alcohol for this either since I’m 3 months sober. Mistakes are a part of life but I ruined the first date night in a month and am getting the couch. Any advice on picking up the pieces after apologies and being told I can’t make up for it? I’m realizing your sober problems still haunt you even if you don’t have drinking-related ones anymore.
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It sounds like you really thought you had the tickets booked and it was a human mistake. It’s ok to make mistakes, we all do. A simple apology is sufficient and if there is any more hurt feelings and and resentment then it’s theirs and not yours. We all have behaviors that stick and take time to change after the storm of addiction (including our partners) and sobriety isn’t going to magically erase them but it is a beginning for everyone to heal and find a place of peace and acceptance. As the alcoholic in my relationship I’ve definitely found that I was the leading cause of most things when I drank. Then a time after I got better at not causing the chaos but was still being treated as if I was still the drunken problem causer, hear me no doubt I still make mistakes but they are human mistakes. Their reactions has to be allowed to be owned by them, our jobs are to identify what we could have done different, apologize and do not add any more chaos to the situation. Sleep on the couch but be grateful your sober another day and you have a couch to sleep on. It will get better, it will be different but better
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I can’t help but think of what my sponsor would tell me in this situation. She would remind me that those feelings belong to someone else, not me. We make errors in life and make sure to clean up our side of the street. The serenity prayer is also very helpful here, it reminds me I’m powerless over people, places and things. I can’t change anyone, I can change and I need to have the wisdom to know that. I hope this is a helpful. Keep up the great work!
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That’s spot on
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Hey, its seems like an honest mistake. Cant make up for it seems a little harsh without of course knowing all the details. I wanted to go see a Flyers game in Tampa close to me, booked the tickets and then realized it was in Philly! I mean you know sometimes instructions aren’t clear, or sometimes your distracted. Or yeah sometimes, we screw things up…sober or not. Its human. What are you gonna do? Learn from it, move on, one day at a time.
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Lots of good comments on this thread.
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I just wish you all the best and hope for the highest outcome of good.
Thanks for your thoughts everyone, this is good feedback.