Sobriety = dealing with boredom. I workout/ single parent/ meal prep after work and by that time it’s past 8 pm but I’m still bored. Any advice? I could do the same thing while I was drinking but now it feels less exciting but it feels more rewarding at the same time.
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They told me in treatment one of the biggest things is learning to deal with downtime- downtime is ok. You could read , do a puzzle, go on here, clean, relax, do nothing. they said I was so used to drama all the time fight or flight, its hard to just be done and have this downtime but its ok to have down time, it's time to rest and digest 
I'm trying to figure it out too almost two years sober on the 1st who woulda thought? So glad. I got a dog, some plants, next is a fish lol I feel like a fuddy duddy learning to except reality the party is over- I'm getting to old to party anyways- it's not a healthy life style my friend said I should be taking vitamins not doing lines. Guess what I do now? I take vitamins lol
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I love it. I’ve been trying to find things like that plants whatever something I can do to fill time. It might sound stupid but I have a plant that I’ve been taking care of for months. It’s just a table plant nothing special but it helped me out alot for some reason. Right now the down time is the worst because my brain isn’t numbed through a substance.
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I have a dope podcast that helped/ still to this day.
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Maybe you might like journaling, i used to write a lot of poems but some things I just don't know how to do sober yet, it takes time- music is hard, there was always music. I love /loved music. I go to online therapy and am in a group for DBT/ sud I think it's a big help in learning new ways to cope / stay sober and ppl have to want to go to DBT u can't just show up or court ordered - I like that
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Also this is my 1st time having plants I've had one since December I even got a bird house
The anxiety right now is holding me back from alot of things. I’ve never felt anxiety before like this but it’s the worst haha don’t know how to explain. I would love to get into something like that. Right now it’s social anxiety.
Well then there's your topic to write about
Layin in anxiety
All around nudging me
No sleep
Can’t function
I’m sick and it’s growing inside of me
Another worry
I think about
Where to start
One thing at a time
“But what if that’s not enough?”
Says my anxiety
I can hear it now
Taunting me
With things I have yet to finish
There importance
Bothers me
Burning tapping moaning alone
Why me? I question my insanity
The things the doctor never sees
Never looks for
Just gives me more
However never what I ask for
Copyright©jsmalls
J Laniado 2021
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That’s how it always feels. It’s weird that poem pretty much explained what I was going through at my worst which was a few months ago. I’m not going to lie it’s so refreshing opening up to others. I have never opened up to others in a hot minute.
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I'm glad you liked it- most times I don't know what I'm going to write it just comes out of my hand- it can help to figure out your thoughts.
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I just wish I constantly not feel anxiety but I think it will get better. Healing being sober etc.
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Boredom turns to serenity over time be patient enjoy the silence
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