What do you do when you watch someone you love find every way out of helping themselves? Do you try to intervene and possibly lose yourself in the process or do you let them go in the hope that they figure their sh*t out?
I’ve found the road to recovery is the hardest thing I’ve ever faced but wouldn’t change it for the world. I know I’m better off now than I ever was before. I just wish they cared enough about themselves to want a better life too.
Feeling defeated but not giving up. 
Sometimes you need to just let them find their own bottom, as much as it sucks to watch they need to want the help. I think we need to be ready to offer any help we can if they do reach for it, but don’t base your life on waiting. It’s a tough spot to be in for sure. I have a brother and friend I haven’t spoken to in months because of their addiction, and my refusal to put my own recovery in jeopardy. Good luck man.
Thanks man. It’s hard to see others going through the same pain and no desire to change. Gotta just keep moving forward!
Now this is something I have experienced. I had to let both of my daughters find their bottom. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And somewhere in not saving them I let myself slip down a very slippery slope to find myself today in full blown addiction.
I had so many people helping, covering for me, keeping all my dirty laundry hidden. They finally let me go. I was destroying there lives, I was mad, upset, extremely self-centered and much much moreat them. I finally fell on my face and hard. I now thank them so much for cutting me off and are friendships are stronger for not enabling me anymore. I thank God for that chance🙏 .
Some times we need to walk a way.
Thank you for this today, it really hit home for me.
I've got a friend that's in it deep right now and I want to be there to help and support but not be used and manipulated. Maintaining healthy boundaries are imperative! I keep reminding myself of what I can control- my feelings, my time, my efforts.
I'm not willing to work harder for you than you're working for yourself.
Remember to care for yourself when caring for someone else while they are sick.