Am I the only one that gets really nervous for new social experiences now? It makes making friends and going on dates very hard.
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Not the only one at all. I now really dislike crowds and rather just stay home.
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Yeah I’d much rather just stay home now
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I don't get nervous, but it's still ridiculously hard to make friends as an adult, sober or not.
Can't speak on the dates, though. I've not dated anyone in several years. I think my brain might just be turned off to it. Or maybe it just doesn't believe in falling in love again.
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I’ve been trying to get back out there but I’m so quiet and awkward on dates. It’s weird.
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I wouldn't even know where to start to get back out there lol. Be proud that you ARE back out there!
Try not to sweat it. Hard as heck, but there's nothing wrong with quiet and awkward, especially while you're still finding your footing and figuring it all out again.
Give yourself a bit of a break! You'll get there.
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I’m the same way , 28 days sober for me today and social anxiety is very present … just stay strong
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Oh I’m staying strong it’s just annoying lol
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I feel you , reach out if you need to
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Nope, your not alone in that.
It’s one of the most popular posts on the app I would guess. Getting to meetings and working the steps helped me “outgrow fear”
Hang in there. It gets better 
Hi Ashley! I'm right there with you! I've struggled with social anxiety since I can remember and alcohol was my crutch. I also think that's why I've relapsed so much. Anxiety can be super difficult to deal with and very isolating. If you want someone to talk to, offer support, I'm here!! Wishing you peace and light 
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Concur
At first, just general fomo, but not really anxious per se. I don't like crowds to begin with anyway!
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I don’t like crowds to begin with anyway either but I always had a crutch to lubricate the situation. Now I don’t and don’t know how to go about navigating this.
Hey, how's it going on the dating front? Have you been getting back out there more?
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I’ve gone on a couple of dates but keep getting ghosted afterward which is a total drag
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YES! Alcohol was how I was able to cope with being “social”. Now 6 years sober and I still struggle with it. I am comfortable around other addicts and alcoholics, but not around others.
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Not at all! I haven’t been on a date or gone out with anyone besides buds from inpatient facility I was at since I went sober. Always scared, I guess, of what people would think of me and who I was.
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Aw man, that's rough. How's it all feel? Like you're acclimating and getting comfortable? Or are you still anxious?
Oh I’m definitely still anxious but I think that’s because I’m just an anxious person.