Someone in my life that I care about an love

Recovery
#1

Someone in my life that I care about an love very much is constantly putting me down . No matter what I do . They always seem to find something to say to me about me knowing what they say an think to me matters. I’ve been clean for over 3 years now an I’m not using or going to use but lately I’ve realized they might be a trigger for me . I try to make them happy but it sucks cause I work with them an are around them 24/7 . I just fell like I’m being drained from them mentally an emotionally. Sorry to but this on y’all I’m just venting not sure what to do so I’d be happy again . Just sucks feeling like ur not good enough thank you

#2

Remove them from your life? Get a different job? Change your environment?

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#3

Al anon go with her once

#4

Honestly this is very difficult and something that I am going through as well. Really, it's about finding you. Your center and what makes you happy and taking every little step that you can to find you again. It's also co dependency. I'll have to look and come back to this post to let you know the name of this really good book I read on the topic. It helps alot and describes your and my situation perfectly. It's tough but you will find your strength. If you need someone to talk to , I'm always willing to listen

#5

Thank you so much an it sucks that everyone around me either doesn’t get it or judges an I am constantly keeping everything to myself that goes on with me an this individual. Thank you so much for replying back . I don’t know many people I’ve just moved from Florida to NC an it’s hard basically around this individual everyday. Thank you for replying back means a lot .

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#6

By the way your beautiful

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#7

I totally understand where you are coming from. I don't talk to anyone either. I feel like I had to cut everyone around me , especially because they didn't understand. It's almost like feeling trapped to me. Sometimes its good, other times most times. I am miserable. And I truly believe I did it myself. But the positive side is I have enough knowledge to work my way back out. And you can too !.

#8

Thanks!

#9

Thank you so much

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#10

How are you just wanted to check in on you . Thank you for replying means a lot

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#11

K .Bradford R said it all.get to meetings. Aa. Org .

#12

When you get to a point where you love yourself and are confident, these ppl won't take up space in your head anymore. Plus you'll learn to set boundaries and be more assertive in situations. Try a 12 step program, prays to you🙏

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#13

I'm doing good and always here to help

#14

I'm sorry but I stopped after "..putting me down." Slam that door CICI.. don't take that don't take that..you don't need anyone putting you down in life for your past, present, and what ever may happen in the future. That is not their place to pass judgement or press you down. Tell them to, "Go fly a kite in an electric storm with a key tide to the string and make sure their hands are wet." To many times in life we allow people like this to control us for not apparent reason. I tend to allow it because I feel I deserve it when I don't. That's our stinking thinking getting the best of us. My dear you need to look in the mirror and let yourself know, "I am strong, confident, and will not allow anyone to take away what I have accomplished and will accomplish moving forward. I will not allow someone's ignorant opinion of me to affect me..I will say enough is enough and stand up for myself or just simply walk away and never look back. Whatever is safer in the situation. But you don't deserve it..keep telling yourself that. Best to you and this situation..