Give aa another shot. If you’re a hopeless alcoholic like me, aa is the only way. Nothing else worked. Go til you love going
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I gotta agree with John. I’m reading: It didn’t work, I can’t do that. AA is the only way I stay sober. If you can agree: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable. Then you have conquered the first step. I said I couldn’t go to rehab too because I didn’t have time with all of my responsibilities. Possibly family members that know how bad off you are are willing to pitch in. If you think they don’t know how bad off you are, you are kidding yourself. I mean…it’s only your life. If you value your life and your family I think you will find it really is worth anything to save it. Once I put as much energy in staying sober as I did getting drunk and drugging it became a lot easier. Don’t end up in the hospital like I did blowing a .35. I should be dead. I went straight into rehab and have been sober 10 months. Unfortunately you have three choices. Quit, end up in jail or dead. Sorry but it’s not something that needs sugar-coating. Im just passionate about fellow alcoholic getting and staying sober. I really do wish you the best.
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Hi, I read some of your previous posts and you’re going through a lot right now. I don’t know if you’re seeking therapy for the issues that your family is going through but if not, that might be a start.
In addition, one thing that resonated with me was when you wrote “I wish I was a normal drinker”. The biggest shift for me was admitting to myself that I will never be a “normal drinker”. Yes, there have been times in my life where I’ve been able to keep myself in moderation but I was always skating on thin ice. The complete absence of alcohol is the only way forward for me. I’m 2 years sober and have never been to AA.
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Your still perfect we are only human life's a big deal and hard times with or without people and God willing we still need that thump in the head like get back to it like ish it's really hard and therefore I'll bounce back even more great than ever before plus you have plenty of people that look up to you in that life or out blessed you believe in the plan of the person who never judge you just loving caring about you us yes good day tomorrow and let's all say this one day at a time. We winning over here
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This one saved my life because she explains the actual science of addiction and once I understood it I knew what I had to do
I have been looking into Smart Recovery. Others have mentioned it as an alternative to AA and it seems like it would be a better fit for me. They have online and in person meetings as well as other resources.
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Quite like a woman is a great book. However, boiled down her recommendations are essentially the 12 steps presented in a more feminine way. Which is why I like. AA saved my life and I am not religious. Maybe give it another shot.
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Great Chris—thank you! I’ll watch this weekend.
Thanks Dina, I’ll look into it!
Thanks Brad. I have been through a lot and I know these issues are at the base of my drinking. I have started seeing a great therapist to help me work through this. I know therapy is going to be key to my recovery.
I appreciate your honesty however sharp. The world needs more folks like you able to tell it like it is. I love that AA has worked for you, but I didn’t feel AA was a good fit for me and was still able to get sober for almost a year before my personal life blew up. I do value my life and especially my health which is my number one motivation to getting sober. I just watched my mom die and I’m watching the slow and painful decline of both my daughter and my husband. I’ve been drinking to numb the pain and helplessness I feel, but it has to end now. My family needs me…I need me…so once again I will use the tools suggested in this feed with the tools I used last year and begin my recovery journey once again.
Thanks Joe. I live in the forest, but I don’t get out to enjoy it much anymore with school, work, and my sick kid.
The snow is coming down outside as I write this. I’ll take your advice and go out for a nice ski later. Thanks!
I will totally check it out, thanks Rebecca!
I agree you have to do what works for YOU!! When all heck breaks out, please reach out. 
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I’ve never heard of the Luckiest Club but I will check it out. Thanks Cathy S!
Your words ring true Trevor P. I think I’ve kept myself busy as a coping mechanism to not deal with the sad and scary parts of my life. And you’re right—the more run down I am the more I drink.
Hi Soul Fire! I read through the replies to you and every one of them resonates. You have a whole support system here. Sounds like you are starting today positive, open, and committed. You are amazing! Just focus one today. One day at a time. You got this👍
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Sobah sisters it’s a awesome podcast.
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Russell brands book on addiction is amazing. Highly recommend
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I have a family and a job and many animals . I thought the same thing… no way! I turned it down multiple times until it wasn’t my choice anymore. And everyone and everything survived without me . If u have a family they should and prob would support ur effort . 4 weeks to a new you . I wish I would have done it sooner .