About to start my step 9. I have an amazing sponsor who has helped me reach this point. Any advice as I work the step?
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The best advice I've ever gotten on step 9 was that not everyone needs to hear from me.
Some amends are best left as "living amends", meaning living right, and not repeating bad behavior. The best thing we can do sometimes is simply leave people we have hurt alone, and let them live their lives without interruption from us.
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I’ll second what Taylor says. Read the 12&12. The 12&12 tells us a few things multiple times.
Be secure in your sobriety. Also, “we cannot buy our own peace of mind at the expense of others”.
I guess the bottom line is that we shouldn’t delay but I need to remember not to do harm in clearing out the bad.
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