Today is day 27 for me. Anyone else get this close to a milestone and just want to throw in the towel. For me recovery is lonely. I received a suggestion to reach out for peer support and I did. Just waiting to hear from them. I don’t get out much to meet new people. It doesn’t help that I am very shy. I tell myself I got this. Focus on today right? One day at a time!
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Dont focus on milestones. The days will add up. Focus on today. If that seems too large focus on the hour, the minute.
Loneliness is a huge problem in the beginning. Time will help as you become more comfortable with your new self.
Walks in the park, going to the gym, texting/ calling a friend. Pick up a sober hobby. Building and maintaining friendships and connection is work but worth it.
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Odaat. Jumping on a meeting is usually what I do when feeling lonely. Or go to the library. People are around but you aren’t obligated to talk lol I’m shy too
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Both of the above comments are right on target. Call your sponsor and find local meetings or ones on line! Focus on just now, for your self. The promises I hate to break are the ones I made to my self!
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Thank you to all three of you. Some very good advice. I will try some of all of these things. I did pick up the phone and talked to a very dear friend. She also gave me some good advice. Then we talked for a little bit it was nice. So once again thank you!
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You’ve come a long way. 27 days is honestly huge! You’re taking all the right steps. I would suggest starting to keep past the shyness and hit a meeting. A zoom meeting even. You don’t have to turn your cam on right away and it gives you a chance to be around others even if it isn’t physically. Keep your head up. You got this
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All I’ve the above definitely come from a place of love
For their fellow people.
And I just want to add never sit or feel lonely.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
Trust us…
Amazingly enough,
We are many!
When we are not asking for help
We can be offering help.
Helping others will take your mind off of yourself.
In my experience which isn’t much.
But enough to know how both sides of that fence feels good….
Getting feels good
But giving feels great.
Give it a shot whether here
Or simply holding the door for a stranger
Sometimes something so small
Is so great for the one receiving it!
Hang in there it does get better
Remember your
sober/clean date
but don’t count the days.
Remember your last relapse
And don’t dwell in the past
Don’t trip over the future
TODAY YOURE SOBER
TODAY YOURE ALIVE
TODAY YOU ARE LOVED
TODAY YOU STILL HAVE THE CHANCE TO LOVE OTHERS BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY
LOVE YOU!
YOU GOT THIS