I’m sure you all know we all have good and bad days on our sober journeys. Well for some reason I am feeling very triggered today. I’ve not had a drop of alcohol for almost 2 years (3/6/21) and I always thought it would get easier with time but the truth is some days I really still struggle. How can I get out of this funk? Pic for attention 
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That little girl looks more important than the self centered indulgence you’re considering. Instead of concentrating on your struggle, maybe concentrate on how to better her life… I’m guessing she was a big factor in your decision to get sober 2 years ago.
One of my best friends gave me the same tough love advice a few years ago. It hit home. The promise I made to my daughter (and myself) to never have another drink has kept me sober with no close calls of relapse. Any time I’m feeling triggered, I make a conscious effort to to concentrate on her and how much better her life is and is going to be with me remaining sober.
Good luck!
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Thank you! She and her sister and worth more than anything in the universe and beyond to me, they are what’s kept me going this long. But I do struggle a lot when they’re at their dads. Thank you for your advice it is appreciated 
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I’d suggest looking within, triggers are usually caused by something we can’t control that we really want to. Acceptance is key to sobriety, first to accept we can never safely use again and second accept we can’t change anything but our own thoughts and actions. This too shall pass, try something fun, self care and a grateful list to restart your day to something better. Congratulations on your sobriety
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Hi, I'll share. Mindset, can't fix yesterday, here and now. Body, kickstart the dopamine, L-Theanine (green tea, dark chocolate). I had to force myself to do physical activity when I was in a funk.
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I totally get that… I’m currently in a nasty custody battle and it’s not easy when my kiddo is with her mother. Especially since she doesn’t want to be there, and her mother’s boyfriend is an abusive psycho. He has beaten up her mother multiple times in front of my daughter and threatened my daughter verbally a bunch of times, but her mother won’t leave him. My daughter’s best interest attorney is recommending that she live with me full time, but her mother stubbornly won’t settle, and the court date isn’t until June… Her mother also won’t let her have the phone I bought her and blocks all forms of communication with me while she’s there. Just telling you this to show things could be worse… Sometimes I think about how much easier it would be in the moment to just have a drink to ease my mind, but I know where that would lead. My little girl is counting on me to stay sober and win this fight for her.
Hopefully your kids’ dad is a good father, and you don’t have to worry about their safety when they’re with him. Staying busy is the best thing for me. Anything to keep my mind busy and pass the time.
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I’m so sorry you are having to go through that, I know the anxiety has to be absolutely crippling. I am blessed that my girls dad is a very good dad so I don’t have to worry - it could be much worse. Parents who don’t work together only hurt the kids, I hope your ex-wife sees that someday and decides to put your daughter first and I pray she gets out of that abusive situation as well. Thanks for the feedback 
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On the plus side of a struggling time - you and your daughter are absolutely beautiful 
Hang in there, it’s literally one good day, one hard day, one crazy day at a time..
You’ve done it this long so don’t give up. You’ve got this darling!
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Wow, I just want to say, I hope one day, I reach what you have accomplished. 2 years sober, is beautiful. I only have a couple of days, and I'm having thoughts of using, and to know that you have struggles also, I don't know how to feel about that. But all i could say, is be strong. For self and family.
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God bless you
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That little girl needs you and you don’t need the alcohol. Everyone has those days. I have 28 months and I get those days. My sobriety is so important to me but my family drive me crazy, especially hubby. He brings up what happened in 2019 and then I immediately feel like a loser again so I think why not have a drink but then I reach out to my friends in recovery and they help me. This is the hardest thing to do I don’t care what anyone says. Especially when drinking is pushed everywhere. Just get to a meeting if you can. I have several zoom meetings that I can jump on 247 if needed.
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Thank you
Congrats on the two years, that’s amazing and inspiring.
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It happens to me too out of nowhere. Today I have 28 months and lately it bothers me when it hadn’t for months at a time. Zoom helps, but I know for me, if I don’t dwell on it and look at what I’m doing today, I don’t have to be afraid of my own self. I already made the decision 28 months ago. This will pass. You don’t need old drama. You need to keep walking in your new life. You’re okay
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Thank you for acknowledging my message, very cool of you. Stay strong. Blessing.
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