Struggling to feel valuable…

Struggling Help
#1

I’m homeless and unemployed, which is possibly the worst place to be as a grown up. The standard of society is that you need a home to have a job and you need a job to have a home. So, where does that leave room for me, and the countless others who I know are in the same “hopeless” place as me?

I was hired to work somewhere, over a week ago, and every day, I’ve been waiting for my paperwork to be processed and to be able to get onto the schedule.

I want to work so much, and not even just for the money. I need something consistent in my life. I need somewhere to go, as not having a home makes it difficult just to figure out where to be for 24 hours each day.

I need some words of encouragement. I need some help getting through the moments.

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#2

Well I’m really glad that you found a job and that you want to work. It sounds like your attitude and mindset are in the right places/moving in the right direction. And that’s kind of what keeps me going myself. Knowing that I have the chance everyday to make good decisions and move one step closer to better. It sounds like your position is discouraging, but you got a job. That was the next step to better. Just keep going. You can push through I know you can.

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#3

Hey brother! You have indeed hit a bad bottom. Remember that bottoms are often what inspires us to recover. Don’t lose hope! There no reason why you can’t be just like many others who have come back from dire situations. I highly recommend you find some help and support. Programs like AA/NA are 100% free.

#4

Thank you, Jen! Thank you for helping this moment feel better.

I so appreciate kind words and when people help me remember to keep feeling myself moving forward.

Please pray for me to be able to get to work quickly. The waiting is the hardest part. Feeling so ready to move forward, but feeling stuck in one place, within the external circumstances. I am ready to move forward and to keep always moving forward.

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#5

I’m a sister. :grin: And thank you!

I went to a Catholic church service today, which I’ve never been to before. It felt good, like the space itself was just holy and sacred. The energy touched my soul and there were a few things said that spoke to me directly.

I appreciate your words! Thank you thank you.

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#6

Oops my bad. Keep your head up sister

#7

You are valuable! Absolutely! You are a person only trying to be a better person and I respect you for that so much.
I was homeless for a short period and the boredom was dangerous with my addiction. I sure hope you get on the schedule soon if not, they don’t deserve you and you should move on to another job where they will appreciate you. Message me and keep me posted.
Leslie

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#8

The manager who hired me is so ready to get me going, and she has been so kind through all this waiting. The hold up has come from paperwork issues, and the owners who do that part have been traveling out of the country.

Today, I actually reached out to the manager, who I have talked to enough times to create a personalized connection with, just to ask if it was something I could count on, and she very kindly and compassionately assured me that I’ve got the job and she wants to get me going, and that if she could speed it up, she would. And that calmed a lot of my angst. :blush:

I think the biggest lesson I am learning is to slow down with things when the externals seem to be “making me” slow down. Like, I’m getting better at calming myself, and knowing it’s not about speedily getting to the next thing. It’s about enjoying right now and every moment as I move forward. Slow and steady will get me there at just the right time. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement!!

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#9

I’m glad of here that, luci. That’s great news. I’ll be thinking of you!

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#10

I hear strength in your words. Keep praying and don't lose hope! :pray::purple_heart:

#11

I really think you need to reach out to sober living! There is so much help out there especially for addicts. Look up Oxford houses in your area

#12

YES ! I’m so glad that you reached out to the manager! Advocating for what you need is a super important skill to learn/have. By doing this you’ve already shown that you are starting to believe in your own value as a human being. Message me anytime if you need anything! Keep me updated as well on the job situation! Much love :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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#13

You're only as "valuable" as you think you are and make yourself. What does "valuable" even mean? It's so subjective. Don't ever measure your self worth against other people's definition of it or what other people are doing.

Are there any shelters/churches/soup kitchens where you could volunteer?

#14

You're going to get through this. Just remember this experience when your life is getting a little comfortable and you start getting that lie off in your head that it's okay to pick up a drink or a drug.