Struggling to understand Gods ways. I have a 19 year old niece that got pneumonia and became septic & her life was cut short. Feeling empty and sad today. Why are there horrible people that live such long healthy lives and a radiate young healthy Young person that passed away way too soon. I know sometimes there are no answers in this is one of them.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I have been told that if we can talk about it, we can live with it. It took me quite a while to move just a little bit forward. ALANON has helped. Also, I have stopped asking why. I’m told the why doesn’t matter and I’ll never know why, or have an answer that is sufficient.
It just is.
I pray for the willingness to except.
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Thank you!
Sorry for your loss. This is painful, but time heals all wounds. Unfortunately sometimes there is no reason. We just have to learn to make peace with what is when we have no control. Wishing you all the healing ❤️🩹
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This is a heavy loss, and I hope you can find peace with it. I used to be angry with “God” for allowing atrocities and injustice. In fact, it’s still the first place my mind goes at times like this. However, I’ve come to realize that if I want to stay sober and sane, I have to make the “choice” to let these thoughts go. It’s not easy to do. I don’t just “turn it over” and “let it go”. First, I have to suffer a lot of pain before I begin the “process” of accepting it. Then I have to continue to keep making this choice because my mind automatically goes back to being angry and blaming “God”. Over time, with a lot of practice, you can slowly start to feel better. It truly is a process and takes practice. Remember we do have a choice, and in order to stay sober and have peace, we need to continue making these choices. In the meantime, we are sending you lots of love, hugs, and support as you mourn the loss of your niece
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The Bible says God won’t put more on you than you can handle.. I know I’ve handled a lot in my life.. I’ve questioned God why everything that’s happened to me in my life.. I wonder what I’ve done so bad to be so condemned.. I have to pray about it a lot.. I’m 68 years old and I could write a book on the pain I’ve suffered. But I know God wants good for me.. I’ve waited all my life to find out what my purpose is.. I’d like to think I’ve helped someone along the way.. I’m so sorry for your loss.. I know what it’s like to lose people in my life.. prayers for you.
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Thank you for your wordsI am right there with you seems like on a lot of levels. Even after 10 years of sobriety today was one of the hardest and I am going to bed sober and am happy about that and grateful for this form.
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All we can do is stay sober one day at a time.. by the grace of God..
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God doesn’t care about you. Why would the creator of all things take an interest in your personal life? That’s the height of narcissism to think that. I know this sounds cynical. But I truly believe this message is beautiful and liberating. There is a God. And he loves you and he loves all of us. But he isn’t intervening and planning human affairs. Doesn’t work like that. I think.
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Sorry to hear. Stay sober
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Don’t give up fight for your sobriety for you and for your niece!!!! You can do this honey, I have faith in you:black_heart:
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This is the most stable thing anyone has said in this thread, regarding "god". I'm a non-believer, BUT I have pondered the possibility (not probability) that there is a supreme being. Why would he care about what happens to me? Why would he help me out when he allowed a bunch of children to be shot at school? Why does he work so mysteriously? Well, maybe he doesn't. Maybe he doesn't care. Our recovery is up to us. God doesn't "got you". YOU got you. Your fellows got you. You're here talking to us, getting ideas from us. You don't have to prayand look for answers in a water spot on your driveway or in the clouds. Turn your care over to the group. I feel this freeing as well, I have had people tell me that it's sad that I don't think im bring cared for by space Jesus. I always refer them to George Carlin. Joe Pesci is looking out for me. 
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Thank you for your words!
I could go into a very long theological post explaining from biblical evidence why things in this world is the way it is. I won't because it won't lesson the sting of what has happened to you. I also will not say the Christian tropes that go along with this kind of tragedy. No it wasn't his will that this happened. No this wasn't part of his plan. Sometimes life happens and it is more than we can take. It is in those moments he wants us to rely on his strength and peace to carry on. A short explanation of why things like this are allowed to happen is simple. When God made man he gave us free will and he gave us rule over this planet. We sinned and sin loosed all the evil in the world. God never took control over this mess back from us. He will only step in to work where we allow. Consider it like this...a landlord is not allowed to enter a property without consent of the lease holder except in certain instances. God is the landlord.
Remember that life happens to us. Sometimes the good suffer and sometimes the evil prosper. That is the randomness and chaos of life. Find the good, and turn the bad over to the almighty
Sorry for the long post.
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Thank you!
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