I am 112 days clean. Im struggling with not relapsing bc I miss my two guy best friends I used to use with. Im missing thrm like crazy. I don’t know how to cope with the loss of them.
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Honestly, when we stop using, it feels like losing a best friend too. Losing old roadies on top of that hurts even more. But when you start valuing your sobriety above everything else, it slowly gets easier. Give it time. You never know, you might end up being the example they need to find their own way too.
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I was told at the onset of my journey that I had to change people, places, and playthings. This was told to me at a meeting where I inquired what that meant.
Going to a meeting, working with a sponsor, getting into The Book, being of service, helping someone else out, praying, meditating and other simple things helped me discover who I am without the alcohol.
I had many drinking buddies, those that I would socialize with ONLY if it involved alcohol. There are buddies today that I have a long relationship with that I can now be around without having to pick up a drink.
This took work, a lot of work. I had to learn in the rooms and with a sponsor to make my armor and be spiritually fit for battle. I also had to do some self reflection and ask what are my intentions? Am I trying to self sabotage my sobriety, am I talking myself into thinking it's ok to hang out with these guys, or are my intentions righteous
I had to be so desperate and used that gift of desperation to try some simple things. I hope you find that gift.
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I had to walk away from some friends of over 20 years because they couldn't be around me and not drink.At first that bothered me but when 1 friend actually told me how proud of me he was and he never would drink around me I knew that he was my true friend. If your friends can't respect you and not drink around you ask yourself if they really are your friends. I hope that you make the right choices over this and I recommend you get to a meeting and hear others advice as well. Good luck and don't give up what you have going on because of false friends.
It's totally normal to feel sad and grieving and loss of relationships. Just remember that, unfortunately, sometimes people in active addiction can't value you enough to not drag you back into the mess. So it's OK to have the boundary of I can't kick it with people using. Stay well
Nah,,, it's the drugs you miss. Find you again and pray they do the same. They're no good to you so long as they're using. They may surprise you and see you do it and want to as well.