Struggling with my 33 yr old daughter who is a

Struggling Help
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Struggling with my 33 yr old daughter who is a meth addict causing havoc in our lives. I've tried 7 yrs helping her. She doesn't want it. :pray: Ugh!

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#2

If they're 3 or 33, they are still our babies. Patience patience and strength. As long as it doesn't lead to your own demise we have to continue to help our children in trouble.

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#3

No one accepts help until they are ready. You can only always be available with boundaries :purple_heart:

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Angela, I know it’s extremely difficult but I learned the hard way. I can’t help anyone that doesn’t ASK for my help or DO THEIR PART!
I was an addict that didn’t want help. My loved ones finally kicked me to the curb. And thank God they did🙏
15+ years of sobriety and grateful.

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#5

Thank you it is difficult. My solution is is to set boundaries.

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#6

My 22 y/o is in sober living now. I understand

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#7

I understand the struggle. I have lived experience with my adult daughter on the streets in gang life. I had to take her children who were left alone struggling. The medical system here was not in line yet with meth addiction so I had to help myself. I learned 3 main things, the 3 C's: you did not Cause it, (so try not to blame yourself); you can't Control it (for you are not talking to your child you are talking to the drug); you can't Cure it, only the addict can choose healing and recovery on their own time. Setting boundaries but have compassion. Refuse to enable by: paying bills, paying fines, buying groceries, cleaning their house are some steps. Self care is so important to keep up your strength and sanity. I wish you well.

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#8

Help in recovery is for those that want, not for those who need it. I was a meth & heroin addict for 14 years I am currently 32 I've been sober for a year and I only used anyone who would offer me help and see if I could twist it to the need of my addiction like money or somewhere to stay for a night or a ride to go pick up without the driver knowing. Sometimes help is mistakenly enabling. So make sure you know what how and when you help your daughter. And tough love is still love sometimes the best for those in addiction. I hope things get better for you and daughter.
Patience & determination.

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#9

Might work didn't work for me mine had to kick me out of the house cut me off let me hit a bottom sufficient enough to bring about sobriety

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#10

Is for folks with addict loved ones

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#11

I had to hit a bottom i gave my mom 14 years of misery since I was 13 it took me not only overdosing in her arms but to have my son born too really gave me a purpose to stay clean sending prayers and love you got this
as does your daughter she just doesn't know it yet but a brighter path is among her she just needs direction

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#12

Have you tried Al-Anon meetings? I would highly recommend it for you. You will meet people just like you with the same problems and going through the same things you are. It’s a good place for friends or family members of people in addiction. My mother and I go together and I can’t tell you how much it has helped. You’ll be in my thoughts in my prayers and I hope you find peace soon.

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