Really struggling today after ending a relationship with a gaslighter/narcissist. I know i did the right thing, but Im sad and questioning everything.
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Hey Kate, I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way right now. Ending a relationship with someone who manipulates or gaslights takes so much strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it. You absolutely did the right thing by protecting your peace. It’s normal to feel sad and question things, but please don’t forget how brave you are. You’re not alone — healing takes time, and you deserve to feel safe and whole again.
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Thank you
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Taking the step to put u first is hard but have faith use it as a learning event instead . It changes the context . Wasn't school fun lol . questions are normal just know some things just don't make sense and that's ok it wasn't ur fault
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Been there done that
Stay strong Kate! Being sober helps me think with my head and not my heart, then you see who people really are
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I feel your pain. Healing takes time yes it is not selfish to take care of yourself.
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It’s also tuff navigating this alone too. Hang in there and reach out if you need someone to talk to
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Welcome Kate. Turn to your higher power of your own understanding and ask for guidance and to help control your thoughts. 
@kate285487 You did the right thing. 
CONGRATULATIONS . Don't question yourself be happy joyous and free.
"Hey Kate, my heart goes out to you. Ending a relationship with a gaslighting narcissist takes incredible courage, and it's such a powerful step in protecting your sobriety and your peace. What you did shows immense self-love, and it truly reflects the principles we learn in AA about putting our well-being first. It's completely understandable to feel down right now – processing these things is part of healing. Remember, you're not alone in this. I'm here for you, and our fellowship is strong when things get tough. Please reach out if you need anything at all.
I relate. I had to do the same thing a few years ago and it’s heartbreakingly difficult. It’s confusing and you second guess everything - it’s the manipulation. Give yourself so much grace, breaking free from a narcissist is painful and confusing. You are strong! If you ever need/want to chat, please reach out. You aren’t alone.
Sorry you’re going through this. Stay strong and vigilant. We are all here for you.