Im struggling with staying sober. I go a couple days then drink. I just have a bad day and i screw up. Like picking up my husband’s ashes. Very bad day. Then ill be good for a day or two. Then screw up. I’ve applied for grief counselling. But until i’m sober, will it help?
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Keep your head up. Hard days will come, but once you get that feeling of not letting the bad change up your day, even if it feels crazy, is the best feeling ever. you got this day one. Let's get back up and try again.
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The struggle is what plays with your mind. A couple of days sober and then relapsing is still progress.
Remember, progress...not perfection.
Losing a loved one is very tough...you have strength to keep going though...you have survived storms...dont let rain drops stop you...any type of therapy is better than being stagnant and not changing what needs to be changed...just be gentle with yourself and do not let a relapse dampen your glow. You are a gem in a world thats full of rocks...keep going.
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I don't know you, and I am also new to this, but I know that there is strength in numbers and this place seems like the best spot for help all i can say is yesterday is history tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift that is why they call it the present... start each day as a new start and try not to be to hard on yourself it seems like a pretty good network here
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I hear you. Losing someone and carrying that pain is hard.
Please don’t beat yourself up, you’re still here and trying. Keep coming back, one day at a time. We’re all here for you
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I take mental health meds they really help mood
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I really started taking my life back after my last relapse. I hurt people,I almost lost my housing. I knew I needed support. I called a community center. They are now helping me with therapy,I have new mental medication. I let go of the darkness I was holding onto. It was killing my spirit. One day may seem too vast and too difficult to navigate. I advise you to take it one step at a time. We are here for you. The progress you are making is what is important.
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Chandra, I’ve been where you are. I had to finally surrender to the winning side. Drinking just stopped being my solution. Drinking keeps us in a loop of depression and anxiety forever! It’s our self imposed prison. We don’t heal until we get and stay absolutely clean. Sobriety is freedom!
I implore you to make your sobriety your number one priority in life. Then you will heal, grow and live a happy life.
I’m here if you want to talk.
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What this lady said....also...learn to be gentle with yourself...your grieving....allow yourself to grieve.....to cry.....to scream...just don't hurt yourself in the process. 🫂🫂🫂 healing happens over time...I am so sorry for your loss.
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I am so so sorry for your loss!!! 
I know it’s hard! Grief is so difficult but worse if you do it alone! Your mind plays tricks on you! I struggled exactly like this at first until I began to reprogram my mind. Changing old habits to new ones even when I didn’t feel like it! Example if I thought of drinking I instead went for a walk a hike began exploring nature, traveled, went to AA meetings, reached out to sober friends, prayed meditated journaled! Even when I didn’t feel like it! I created a new life and took my power back! I surrendered it all to God and fought against those old habits and thoughts. You can do this one day at a time! Don’t be too hard on yourself. 1-2 days turned to 4-5 days then weeks and months!
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