Stuck on feelings

I’m doing my amends and I’m stuck on this “ I find this hard becz I could care less about the people on my list. Like don’t wish to see them again n mentally for me it’s better have them in my past”

My sponsor is hard on me making these an I wish physically these people would be simple for me. But it will cause me sleepless nights and possibly having me drinking

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Wish I had better advice for you and understand that’s certainly a tough one. AA is a wonderful program but never cared for this step. Or at least in my opinion, this step should be later on in sobriety as to imply that you are staying course in sobriety and your sorry’s will hold more weight to others..again just my opinion.

Sometimes amends just cannot be made. Often, making said amends will put us or others in a bad situation. In these cases, amends should be avoided.

If you and your sponsor don't see eye to eye on that, it may be time to consider a new sponsor.

My 1st sponsor didn't approve of my participation because at the time I was on MAT. Luckily a member set me straight and gave me the same advice. I found a sponsor who understood my DOC, my disability and the necessity of the MAT. I have now been cle a n with zero MAT for almost 6mo.

Dont.let the small things hey you caught up. Work the program. Get a sponsor who supports and understands you. You Got This!

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See you get me lol

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Think about it as though you are having THEM to go through an enlightenment. Wake em up. Make em think. Leave a firm impression. :fleur_de_lis:

Keep up your sobriety and what ever it takes. Sounds like you’re on a good path and really thinking about the next right thing. And doing. I often have to table things and come back to them, especially amends -  sometimes it’s a weekly thing - I practice gratitude one day at a time.

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Katie, it’s totally okay to feel stuck on this part. Making amends isn’t about forcing yourself to face people who hurt you before you’re ready. You don’t have to rush it. Talk it through with your sponsor and trust your gut too. Healing takes time and you get to do it at your pace.

I was so stuck on this step as well. I didn’t realize that just acknowledging it was the step. It doesn’t require you into action. Only to acknowledge your part. You had one. No amends have to be made out of guilt or duty. Just recognize your part. You’ll see how it plays out later, be patient.

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I was told while doing step 5 to get myself out of the way and allow the process to work. It wasn't important or necessary for me to think or care. I have a broken brain and working a program helps get me right sided.

I have to clean my side of the street. When my side is clean, I'll look back and be proud of the work I did. I need to keep moving forward and not become paralyzed and stunt my growth and healing.