I’m 2 years sober and earlier in my recovery struggled with the concept of a higher power. I’ve come to believe in one but my wife does not believe in spirituality or higher power/God.
Tonight we were talking about the day she finally had enough and confronted me about my drinking. It was the day she also discovered how bad my drinking really was because of how I hid bottles of vodka around the basement on top of the beer she was aware of.
I told her I was so grateful for that day and to my higher power to have put her in my life. I also was grateful to have that confrontation happen and that I was open to surrendering at that time.
She responded that she was a little offended be abuse it was her that did all the figuring out and she was the one that decided to confront me and get to the bottom of what was going on with me. She said it wasn't fair to her since she doesn't believe in a higher power/God, that she was the one in control of that situation.
I apologized and sort of let it dropped but now feel it was a missed opportunity. I just don't know how to approach this though with out her getting defensive or starting an argument.
Any suggestions or experience is appreciated.
Thanks!