Are there any single moms/dads that are recovering from opioid addiction? I don't have family or friends for support in "real life" and find myself needing support with noone to turn to. I find myself having to disassociate with the "friends" that were in my life during addiction and honestly, it just kind of blows. I guess I'm just hoping to find people I can relate to and form connections with. You don't even have to be a single parent or recovering from opioids. Whatever our DOC is or life situation, we all have something in common but it would be nice to know someone I can relate to on a personal level.
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Morning Samantha, My name is Tom. I’m a single father and recovering from a long term opioid and eventually fentanyl addiction. It can be a lonely and very hard road. How are you doing?
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Good morning Tom, I'm doing okay. Thank you for asking. How are you doing? I feel like being a single parent has added a whole other layer of guilt to my life currently. When I was actively using I had a community of people that I considered friends and I guess separating from that and seeing that those people aren't going to be a positive influence for your life is just isolating. I am happy being mom but I feel lost as a person. Trying to forgive myself for my mistakes and figure out how to form healthy friendships with people who actually care about me as human is not something I'm handling very well these days lol I hate the stigma around addiction. I feel like no matter how much I try or how sober I am still looked at like an addict when I do something wrong. It's always assumed to be about drugs and not depression, anxiety or just a bad day. Like everyone is just waiting for you to relapse or something
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Well there are those out there that judge but their opinion is not our business. Easier said than done I know but try to remind yourself of that. Anyone who matters, If your putting in a true effort, will eventually start to be impressed to the point that they admire you.
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Hey 
I’m Joshua, not a parent yet, no partner so no kid. 🫤 but I am an opiate addict also. The people still in my life act as if I still am using opiates basically and have given me no snap, props, thumbs up, high fives, “good job”’s, nothing. Not one. And will not recognize me for staying sober and as of yesterday will not drive me to the methadone clinic where I still go. That is how I chose to quit using drugs. Now I don’t know if I made the right decision with the methadone, I got my friend to agree to drive me today but after today I don’t know what I’ll do, methadone doesn’t get delivered but I can get other things brought to me. I’m having a really tough time today I wanted to relapse last night but I didn’t and I’m getting ready to go dose I’m trying so hard right now but this is cruel
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Hey Samantha…I used to have a huge problem with prescription painkillers, mostly Percocet and Vicodin were my favorites. I know what that is like and I never want to be back there again. I’m single although my kids are grown I can relate to the shame of having done it around them when they were growing up. The only blessing is that from having seen me strung out all those years they both made the decision that they never wanted that life and stayed away from all opiates themselves. Message me anytime you need to talk and chances are I can relate to what you’re saying or going through. Peace.
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Good morning Sam, you are absolutely 
right with what you said. We are all here to share our voice and help each other, and support one an other. I have been 101 days sober today. I threw away a decade of my life, and now I find myself getting off on the stugle and fight everyday. I hope you get to this point and always fell like you can reach out. There is always someone reading or afraid to talk to someone. Did you ever think that you posting what you did that 3 or 4 more people would have something positive to say? Just saying when you doubt yourself, there is always someone to lean on. Take care Sam!!!
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Hey Sam I thought I had friends during my addiction but they didn’t really care about me ( or my 2 daughters) yet I still miss them and even still romanticize the good ole days even though I almost didn’t make it out alive. I recently found out one of my friends that I would use with died. It was heartbreaking.
I long for friendship someone who understand me and it going to motivate me to stay clean and not drag me down. As far as how I failed my kids definitely I still carry guilt about not being there the way I should have but we aren’t our past mistakes. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to message. 
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Hello I’m Ziggy and I’m a father and a husband and a longtime opiate addict. I’m still married to my husband but he is someone who has never tried a drug in his life so I definitely feel like an alien to him. I am on 81 days after being in a residential treatment facility for the second time in a 5 month period. I struggle every single day but what I find that helps me is reaching out to the people who I was in treatment with. I also am available if you wanted someone to talk to. Keep up the outstanding work and take it a day at a time, or like myself and every 15 minutes at a time. 
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Hey josh do u qualify for Medicaid or anything bc they do give free rides to the clinic it’s a hassle sometimes but just something to look into. MAT helped me and I finally tapered off of it. Just set a goal with it bc sadly some of those places really don’t care how long you stay in the program. I felt too weak to detox on my own so I picked MAT and I started tapering when I felt ready and now I’m over a month clean. It’s possible but if you can’t get to a clinic maybe u can get on subutex from a dr? Be safe and good luck and hmu if you need anything
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Hi Samantha .. You’re in the right place for some support .. I’m a divorced father with 2 kids .. You are not alone .. you can reach out whenever you want !!
Thank you I was having SCARY thoughts 
I don’t want to continue. But my uncle drove me this morning thank freaking GOD . I’m trying to get them set up with a standing order but I have to wait to find out if I had them do it correctly at the clinic for me 
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I am on 140 mgs of methadone I am SO SCARED to taper off or down right now at all. I JUST got stabilized on my dose so no more withdrawals in the mornings before dosing
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Don’t worry about tapering right now just get stabilized and you will know when ur ready. Being safe and not sick rn is priority.
I can empathize. Especially when my addiction was at my peak and my recovery was fresh.
Just try and find new hobbies and stuff be close with the women In NA OR AA
Also I grew up in NH myself
Boredom can be a MFer
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My daughter, Caitlin Harrell was a heroin attic for over five years. She went to Texas from North Carolina to treatment and has been savor. This November was six skews me five years she want to look her up. She’ll probably friend you she’s a great girl and beautiful she now lives in Charlotte North Carolina
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How is it possible to have a fentanyl addiction? I thought that stuff can kill on impact…. (sorry if this sounds ignorant)
Hang in there ! Take things 1 day at a time
Stay strong brother. Try praying for a solution. Your HP has your back n will help assist you getting your needs met.
I’m a single father that was addicted to adderall and I am an alcoholic. I’ve been sober since October 5th 22. My wife left me on October 1st for another man. So I’m also feeling very alone in my recovery, the only easy days I have are when I’m with my 3 children. But as much as I struggle sober communities are the reason I am able to stay sober and continue to grow in my recovery. I’ll be your friend if you need one.
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