Soon I want to start repaying everyone I hurt in my toxic journey through addiction. My debts and my mental impact I put in people. Just don’t know where to start though any ideas? I’m not able to pay right now but I still want to let them know I’m sorry.
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I found the ones I couldn't talk to or say I am sorry to.. I just attempted to be less of assssssssssshole moving forward to other humans I interacted with and not do the same wrongs I did to the people I couldn't say sorry to.
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Go to AA get a sponsor, and work the steps u will then
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Try is the key word and I know Yoda has other thoughts on trying.
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yeah cause idk how easy this is gonna be 
Start with Family imo
Then friends that actually stuck by if any are left. Twas my path of apology/repayment anyways. Strength and serenity on your apology/repayment journey Sharon 
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I’m in the process of putting it on paper and starting with family first
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Like " Then friends that actually stuck by if any are left" ... Real talk !
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Work your steps find a sponsor, you will get in your steps to make an amends. Definitely find a sponsor and he/she will walk you through this good luck
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I think its great that you want to take this action in your life. We of AA believe there is a proper method for doing this which will pay you back in dividends. There are 12 Steps in AA that transform us.
Step 8 states, "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.”
The 8th Step leads you to the knowledge that there are things you can and can’t change by identifying who you’ve harmed and how you’ve harmed them and then making a list. Now is the time to be open and honest. Think about any instances of selfishness, greed, dishonesty, negligence and so on, regardless of whether or not you intended to cause harm at the time.
Seeing this list helps you understand the impact you have on the world around you, the responsibility you have and will hold you accountable for dealing with it. And that willingness to make amends will be essential when you’re ready to go on to Step 9.
Step 9 states, "Made direct amends to such people whenever possible except when to do so would injure them or others."
We have to be prepared for this step and not properly doing so can lead to mixed emotions which can take us back out. This is all about cleaning up OUR side of the street.
Some people may not be so willing to forgive while others will be totally encouraging us to keep doing what we're doing.
This is why it's important to get a sponsor and do the steps in the correct order.
Here are the promises that will happen during step 9 and onward.
Work the steps it will lead you there. 
Be sober. Have empathy and compassion. Live the best life you can and lead by example. By doing these things every single day you’ll say your sorry and make amends. It will take the rest of my life of living this way to make the necessary amends!!
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Time will be the greatest thing to happen.
The wreckage of my past is still pretty fresh and I’ve tried to make my amends to a lot of people and some of ere receptive and some weren’t.
Give it to a power greater than yourself. And let the rest play it out.
From personal experience, get a sponsor, work the steps in order. There is a recommended way of making amends and you’ll want the guidance and support throughout the process from someone who has a working knowledge of the steps.
Simple find a recovery program…..they will teach you and support you beyond what you can imagine…truth Keith Kayle