The 4th step. But I heard in a meeting of how being selfish and being afraid of being hurt. Is still selfish even if it’s a self defense mechanism. I feel like I give people what they want. But I don’t get reciprocation. This too is selfish. I don’t expect it immediately but theirs a threshold after a few times.
I.e. if I don’t call this person or friendship it dissent exist. I’m sick and tired 
of one way relationships.
Hi Chris, I have heard a lot of things in meetings and the exact opposite in other meetings. It is hard to sift through all of it. It is important to remember that they are suggestions. My experience: I have always been a people pleaser. I can see now that it stemmed from low self worth and self esteem. I recently joined the dating world after I very long time. I was extremely mistreated by someone. Normally I would do what I had to, to fix the problem and continue the friendship/relationship. Now I can see that is not healthy for me. I communicated this with the person and backed away from the situation. I have a lot to lose. It took me a long time to get here. I have heard AA called a selfish program and I think that is good. Wanting a better life for yourself is selfish and now I know I deserve to be happy. Call it what you will but I am ok with that.
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Lol, 2 Chris O’s make a strong team.
I was thinking the same thing. At first I was trying to figure out when I made that post. Lol
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