The "Hard Part"

Recovery
#1 
 Most say the first step is the hard part of recovery, but I think the hard part is probably different for all of us.

For me, the hard part is about 2 weeks in. I start to get very bored without those instant gratifications I get from my addictions because I'm not achieving things in life as quick as I would like. Well lately I've been making it to 30 days and then I "slip up" for a day or two. This cycle is still enough to put me behind and kill my confidence because I'm already wanting to use more often again. Ugh... I really want to work to keep busy :frowning:

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#2

Hey Jen.

Even the highest-achieving ppl in the world get bored sometimes.
Its your higher power asking you to slow down and Be with yourself.

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#3

I definitely dealt with the boredom…. It takes time but you’ll find things to do sober.

#4

Gotten bored of slowing down and being with myself lol. The most

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#5

I picked up some hobbies along the way. Many I have dropped because I didn’t care for it.
Not to take up the time of boredom, but because I had no idea if I enjoyed them or not. Sometimes I had to pick up something new and see if it was fun or not. Life’s more fun when you’re having fun.
I also went to a lot of meetings to stay sober, learn some new things and maybe help find the words that I couldn’t express myself.

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#6

Instant gratification and boredom are huge factors for myself and can become triggers. That’s when I do need to get closer to my higher power, my God and remember that it’s His will not mine. I need to constantly remind myself of this.

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#7

Sad part is using hasn't been fun for so long I don't get why I still want to do it anymore

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#8

Busy helps. I agree.

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#9

I've definitely been there. I'm grateful that this time around I finally had enough patience stick it out with meetings and staying sober long enough to actually feel good being sober. Instead of using for a quick fix!

#10

Yeah I keep trying new things... Because before drugs I think I was boring too lol. I'd mostly play video games. I need more hobbies that I am involved in not try only once

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#11

I want to go to meetings in person again that's for sure. I haven't been back except twice since COVID stopped being too much of a threat.

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#12

I can relate to the complacency. It’s taken several attempts. I just got sick and tired of going back to being the person I was. And became desperate to figure out who I really am. A new world opened up. Relapse can be a very important part of recovery. Keep doing the next right thing and you’ll get there!! You got this!!!!

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#13

Yeah I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired lol

#14

I feel the same way! I’m 15 days alcohol free and I’ve done great this far but the boredom is starting to get to me lol trying to stay strong though..

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#15

This is a very important point. There’s who you were and who you are becoming/want to become. This is the transformation that i’m going through right now. You’ll reach a point that your old habits won’t relate to the new person that you’re becoming. I had a slip up last weekend but these things are becoming less and less and much further in between. Be curious of who you want to become and of who you really are, and start making changes to be that person… if you’re just staying sober but not making any other positive changes to your life (habits) then it’s going to be harder. :two_hearts:

#16

It’s great that you want to go back to meetings. Recovery is about action. So get to it. Find a noon meeting. Or an after work meeting. Or a traditional 7:00 meeting. Or even a few of them.

I came into recovery during covid. In South Texas. In the summer. Meetings were outside and we still wore masks and social distanced. And I went to all of them. I didn’t miss a meeting for probably close to a year. Granted there were not meetings every night, but I also zoomed and relied heavily on this app. You can do it.

#17

There’s toxicity in the busy too! Watch out for that! You got this! Lots of on demand, virtual and in person sober events across the country with The Phoenix! They were a game changer for my recovery! (Search: a sober active community in your app market) Between Loosid, Phoenix, Smart Recovery and Dharma, I’m acquiring tools to build quite the foundation!

#18

It's not boredom. It’s serenity.

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#19

I feel exactly like this too

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#20

It's becoming less and much further between I like how you put it like this cause it's true

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