The hardest thing for me right now is my wife

Recovery
#23

Sorry, I didn't see Kevin's suggestion. I remember when my Dad quit drinking. It was so hard on both of them. Mom all of the sudden had this sober husband talking about AA all the time. They were always going out with friends that drank. Now Mom's funny, social husband was serious and didn't want to go the social functions with their friends.

Maybe just you be you, and let your wife be herself for a while. Let the dust settle. Let her see that you mean to stay sober. Maybe she will like this new person you are becoming. Set a time limit in your head. Say 6-9 months and then revisit this. Divorce is very difficult too. Hard on you, the kids, your wife.

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#24

Yes

#25

N I explain it to her like if I was to die today n there widows who can only understand the pian n how to go about n she going to try n give me the space I need to get to where I’m going

#26

I agree n we talk about it to the point where she accepted this new me n that all she need to do and try to understand why she so important to me not to fight all the time about notting it’s not like I’m getting high so space is need it

#27

I personally think only an addict or alcoholic can understand how you are feeling. Its hard for someone who is not to get in your head.

#28

There is a lot of wreckage to clear in relationships when we get sober. For us there was a lot of resentment. My partner does not drink or use. I have been sober over 2 1/2 years and at times, those resentments stilll show there ugly heads, but I have this program to help me deal with thing in a better way. Bless them change me. Life is so much better than it was when I was drinking and using.

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#29

That’s beautiful. I feel you are doing the right thing. Get yourself right. Heal your wounds so you can help others, including your family.
Do you have God in your life?

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#30

Yes I’m working on that also I cloudnt do what I’m doing with out him

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#31

Wonderful to hear my friend. God is doing for us what we can’t do for ourselves.