The hardest thing for me right now is my wife cuz she don’t get it n I’m trying everything to help her with it but it just not working so what can I do ?? Or what can she do to make it work if not then I know what I need to do
Want what do? Cuz she doesn’t use
How to deal with the new me
How to deal with the new me ?
How to deal with the new me ? How to deal with Im not fix it’s not going to happen over night I have to fight ever second n I pay chess not checkers so I’m doing everything to explain
Well normies are not going to understand, so the only way is to accept that and do the things you need to to stay sober. Make sure the “new you” is an arrogant D though. Are you difficult to “deal” with?
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Fick no I’m the most eazy person to deal with as long as your not a rapist or a woman beater
I put eveone else frist this is the only time I’m putting my need frist cuz it has to be like that
Wait are you saying sometimes you are a rapist and a woman beater?
But fighting with her n slowing me down or losing connection with her so I put it out there for better understanding cuz I can’t focus on her need
Lol no Broo thos are plp that will never get the good side of me
whew good cuz you were about to get the bad side of me. lol Just relax and cut her a break our early sobriety is weird for everybody. I still don’t have half of it figured out. Probably just talk to her about it. Chicks like it when you just listen and don’t be trying to fix their problems.
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Do you even look like the kind of guy but Thant for the laugh I’m more the kind that u don’t want to run into if u hit ur wife girl jump off whatver cuz all I see is what my mom use to go tho
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Exactly what I already saying n said to her
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Just because you are clean today does not mean the world is filled with rainbows & unicorns. Other people remember the "old" you and can be reluctant to believe things are OK today. Also, other people heal on their own time, not yours. You can help by practicing living amends and allow her time & space to process everything.
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You need to keep the old political axiom in mind. "You can lead voters to the booth, but you can't make them think.
She is going to have want sobriety for herself more than you want it for her.
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Ur right n I am I also didn’t want to give her the answers to my questions cuz she need time to heal n has to part in just a lil bit to resolve whatver that hurting her feelings cuz the Fick truth hurt
Lex, we can suggest Al-anon. It’s a 12 step program for people with addiction in their family. Teaches them how to live with addicts and/or cope with the everyday stress us addicts cause.
I feel that there is nothing we can say to them. I was in your shoes a few years ago. I tried to explain what’s wrong, what it’s going to be like. I was still trying to control her and my life. My self will was a riot. Even though I wanted to quit I was scared to. Talking is the most dangerous thing we do as humans. We need to talk less and show more positive actions towards everyone.
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Hey Kevin thank bro and I told about this n she more then willing to give it a shoot she know I will leave n still take care of our kids and my end with no problem as much as I can.don’t get it twisted I love my wife but if I had to let her go not to go back to it then she will end up loving me more at the end just accepted me for been real. After we talk all morning long out of 4 days of not not trying to be mean but letting her know hey I love u and all but I have my own suff to worry about I’m still here but u need to figure out ur end too n we meet in the middle like we should but thank for everything u n taking the time to push me to just let it out
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Have you suggested she try Al-anon? Maybe if she hears some of their stories she might see herself in them.
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