The weekends

Today is 33 days sober for me. Weekends are always the hardest. Not because I used to go out to bars or drink with friends. My wife takes care of her grandma every other weekend or sometimes several weekends in a row. We have no kids and Im home alone and the temptation to just go grab a small bottle is weighing on me. I feel good, probably the best I’ve felt in a long time and for whatever reason I just feel like decimating that feeling. I wish I can be a casual drinker but I’d always drink to get drunk. And now I cant ever touch it, never again. One day at a time…

8 Likes

Devin the feeling in the Devil playing with your soul. Prayers help with that along with health beverage and a workout plan. When you get those feelings do something reverse do something good for your mind and body. Stay strong :muscle:

1 Like

Go learn something, let your inner child out , clean house try smart recovery

2 Likes

Do you like to take road-trips or hikes? Maybe pick up a new hobby that doesn’t mix with drinking for the weekends. Take this as a chance to expand on your life experience and personality instead of feeling deprived. You are doing the right thing for yourself but being sober includes adding to your life, not just subtracting if that makes sense.

Good luck :hugs:

2 Likes

Why not go with your wife? Service to others helps immensely in our recover. Even if it just to run out to the store or grab lunch for the ladies.
You got this man! ODAAT.

2 Likes

I hear you man. Early on I would try and give myself chores or errands to run when I knew I’d have a lot of down time. Helped kill the time and gave me that sense of accomplishment. Just keeping your mind busy any way you can. Workout, read, hike/run, video games, etc.

2 Likes

Thank you. I actually went and bought a new guitar today. I played since I was 13 but booze hampered my ability. So im getting back into it.

1 Like

I just went on a road trip with my dad today. Tomorrow is his birthday and we’ll get together for food.

I can and have. We have no children but 2 dogs and a cat. My wife prefers i stay home to make sure theyre fed and taken care of. Her grandma lives in a town of about 300. They have nothing. Theres no gas station for about 15 miles and she has 3 freezers full of food. I still go, and make it for most holidays and carve the turkeys and hams. :grin:

Greattttttt

Devin

Quitting drinking is no easy task. But try to remember what it says in the big book of AA. Drinking was but a symptom of our problem. We have to get down to causes and conditions. I know you've probably heard this a million times beforehand but I'll have to say it to you again. Meetings, meetings, meetings.

You don't have to live in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous for the rest of your life, but it certainly does help in the beginning. I'd get to as many meetings as possible and try to get a Big Book and a 12 and 12 discussion once a week. They are both very educational so that you can build your foundation and understand how the program works.

In the old days, sponsors used to take their sponsees through the 12 Steps in 4/ 1 hour sessions. The sooner you get through the 12 steps, the sooner the promises are going to start to come true for you in your life, and the sooner the obsession to drink will be lifted.

That's what it did for me.

1 Like