These AA zombies are so ridiculous. "I got sober to get healthy." Like its a fad or something? When I explain that Im a real alcoholic. Your fad & choice of sobriety was not mine. I never had a choice. Im tired of the "what do you do for fun now that you dont go to bars?" 
NEVER liked the bar. It was NEVER fun. Hop off the tails of people who actually suffer, go through h*ll, & fight for their lives. This is not a game, or a "for now" thing.
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Sounds like 12 step ain't for you - that's okay. It ain't for me either. However, I am grateful for those who have had success through it and I'm not gonna yuck their yum as much as 12 step ain't for me. If it is your program that you want to stick with and have issues with some personalities, well as they say "he-ll is other people" then find your people - it's tough but they exist and when you do find them, it will be wonderful.
Recovery is a choice - it's a desire to want to live differently in a way where we are not harming ourselves, our loved ones, and/or our community. And you can also choose how you approach recovery for yourself and within any program. Sending you good vibes and appreciate you and your thoughts.
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While I appreciate your opinion. It doesnt change my experience. I have my experience and my people. I said what I said because it NEEDED to be said. You dont have to agree. I have no interest in being a part of a cult or sympathizers.
I dont need to send fake love. Im based in reality. 
The beauty of real sobriety.
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You're right, it doesn't change your experience and your feelings about. Your feelings and experiences are valid. If you have no interest in 12 step then you have the opportunity to find what works for you and helps you succeed in life. We all get to be different and make our own choices - I love that, ain't not a thing wrong with it.
Not sure why you are putting the blame on AA. Itâs there to help you. Itâs only a support group. Your desire to quit drinking is your choice. You could show up at a âAAâ meeting intoxicated and you will be accepted. You have to want a change. Itâs not working for you now.
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I've just simply surrounded myself with people who are supportive of me..
Not that it was easy to create that group.. lol
But I did it.
Because if you are surrounded by people who are supportive of you, then you're surrounded by the wrong people
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Well, leave them behind but why complain about them. They could just be further removed from past destruction than you, and are truly enjoying life. So. What brings you joy? That's the purpose of not killing ourselves with poison, so we can experience joy.
Not my point.
Not my point. lol goodbye zombie.
Bring on the Zombies. Im very happy in my recovery. The shitty thing is trying to date. I used to attend AA regisiously. I slit my wrist after a meeting. Never went back. I am not recovering. I am recovered. God has healed me.
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We all do our recovery our own way. I stopped going to AA because they were judging me on how I do my recovery. I drink 0% non-alcoholic beverages and I smoke weed and I'm on a bunch of meds and they didn't like that. I don't go by the book and I especially don't do my recovery anyone else's way and they also didn't like that and they got offended when I defended myself from them. I've had bad experiences with AA meetings. I don't care what anyone has to say about me drinking non-alcoholic drinks and me smoking weed. I'm not drinking alcohol and not using the hard drugs I was putting in my body so it shouldn't matter either way
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Agreed! There are so many paths to recovery. AA is a resource but itâs not for everyone (including myself).
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The one thing I can't stand is when people force their ways of recovery onto other's who have found their own path to recovery. I'm not in a circus and not a monkey. I don't jump for anyone and I don't do my recovery the same way other's do
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As a member of the sober community from many years, I have noticed a significant increase in the âsober curiosâ crowd. I guess we all gotta start somewhere. It just didnât work that way for me. I drank and used to run and escape. From early on it was never cute or funâŚit was always out of my mind insanity.
Thereâs definitely a movement towards sobriety being cool. Thatâs wonderful, but if you suffer from addiction this ainât about coolâŚthis is life or death. This disease will lead you to jail, institutions and death. It ainât pretty, and itâs nothing to play around with. I donât ever remember having a choice. Today Iâm grateful to have a choice. Sobriety is life
I did not care for AA either. I donât even really use this app very often, but I checked in today to see my sobriety counter and I read your post. It doesnât even matter if I agree or disagree; I hear you and I see you. I completely hear your point of view. Thatâs whatâs been missing for me, a place where I can express myself and not be judged or corrected for not âdoing soberâ the âright wayâ. Instead of seeking sobriety groups, I joined a womenâs circle in my area. It connects women from different generations, cultures and socioeconomic status. Also, it provides the support I was looking for without a focus on getting sober. Maybe something like that exists for you? Or maybe you create what you need ? Hope this helps a little.
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Cult like vibes but thatâs my opinion on AA
To each their own. AA has been good to me. 9 months sober. Longest time in 25 years. The big book and the steps have made a huge impact on my life, and Iâve made a few really good friends. None of the AA people I have met have said they got sober just to get healthy. I mean a few were on the verge of death⌠anywho, hope you find a path that works for you.
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There is no right way or wrong way it whatever works you I quit using Meth 6monthes ago and I have not one stepped into a rehab or NA meeting I was asked by my adult children what they can do to help me stay clean I told them to hold me accountable and if they feel nessasary test me and if I refuse they know I'm dirty and lord knows I would rather die than see the look of disappointment and hurt on their face i purchased the tests online and I have I have not had one dirty test and i love the look on their face when my test comes up clean I can feel how proud they are and it makes me feel soo good to not be a disappointment that's what works for me but just because it works for me that doesn't me it will work for you there is a reason why your sobriety is yours and my sobriety is mine because everyone is different and everyone has a right to be heard even if we don't agree
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Ceselina, I hear you. The âsobriety as a health trendâ thing is real and it can feel dismissive when youâre fighting for your life. Youâre right, for a lot of us, this wasnât a choice, it was survival.
That said, Loosid isnât AA. Weâre a community for everyone in recovery, whether thatâs through AA, SMART, therapy, MAT, faith, or just sheer willpower. All paths are valid here, and that includes yours.
Whatâs not okay is calling people âAA zombiesâ or telling anyone to âhop off the tailsâ of others. We donât gatekeep whoâs suffering enough or doing recovery the right way. Everyone here is fighting something.
You can vent about what frustrates you in AA culture without calling anyone names for what works for them.
Please, letâs keep it respectful. Thatâs how we stay supportive.
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Fair enough. I've felt similarly, not because I felt like they were trivializing my experience, just that they were drinking the cool aid. But heck, if it works for them then good.