The last time i posted things were rough. My man was out of town for 2 months. He got back Saturday to his dads. Its been a roller coaster of emotions this entire 2 months. Right now we are in an okay place. When he left we were living together now that he has came back he was given an ultimatum by his dad that if he came back to live with me he would lose his dad. I do not want him to lose out on having a relationship with his dad because i would give almost anything to have mine back so i could have a relationship with him. I am willing to do whatever it takes to make this relationship work. And if that means not living together right now then i will pivot. It sucks not being with him every day but i love him so i will make it work. At this point with his dads health not being the greatest he probably wont be around much longer anyway. And ill be damned if im going to give that man the satisfaction of giving up on my relationship when i know thats what his dad wants is for me to notbe in the picture. He wants all the control he can get over his son and its only a matter of time before that relationship breaks because its not built on what a father/son relationship should be built on. Its built on ultimatums control and non existent boundaries.
You only need to stay sober for you, the rest is not worth losing your sobriety over
I know i only need to stay sober for myself. But having a support system helps and right now I do not have a good one of those
Do you go to meetings?
Having like minded people around you helps a ton, get the phone list from a couple of different meetings and introduce yourself to sober people.