This hanging low n not drinking beer is causing friends to not call and creating an atmosphere of them vs. me. I dont like it n starting to get pissed.
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In my experience, you not drinking isn't the cause of people distancing themselves. It's usually the other persons relationship with alcohol that causes them to feel convicted. I had a good friend who just couldn't accept that if we hung out, I wouldn't drink anymore. She was very bothered and kept asking me questions about what I thought of her drinking. And I had family who had substance abuse issues. I let them know that I don't spend time with intoxicated people, so if I felt they were reaching their limit, I would be leaving. I left one holiday and was never invited back because I honored my boundaries.
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@alby168658 there's no need to lay low. If they call and ask you to go out for drinks, just let him know that you can't because the doctor says you're allergic to the ingredients of alcohol.
Which is true. You are allergic to alcohol so you're not lying to him. You're just telling them the truth. It's the truth that they may not understand. You got the sister. You got this. We're here for your support
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Yeah, that's always a tough situation. One of my closest friends is still drinking himself to a slow death each night and we don't kick it like we used to as a result.
I still visit, and if for any length of time am sure to bring a mixer of NA Heineken or some mocktail ingredients.
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I had to make new sober friends. I still love and cherish my old drinking friends but from afar.
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It horrible when people start acting different just because you’re making a positive change. Real ones will respect your choice, and the right people will show up. Hang in there.
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