This morning I took a large gulp out of an open bottle of wine my boyfriend must have accidentally left on the counter last night, within minutes my body threw it up… I had been sober for almost 6 months. I feel SO guilty and don’t know how or if I should tell my support system/sober network. Any suggestions would be appreciated 
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It’s depends on who your support system is. What would be the consequences of telling them ?I don’t know the type of people your around but if you think it would be ok to say something then i’d say go for it. If they truly support you they would appreciate the honesty and tell you it’s okay. It was just a lapse barley since you threw it up i guess the intentions were still there. What do you think you should do ?
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Stay strong we’re in this together. You deserve sobriety and peace
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I say honesty is the best policy what you allow is what will continue be honest with everyone in your network so they can support you in all the ways you need❤️ good luck you got this
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I'd say be honest, so you can get rid of it. This too shall pass
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If your boyfriend is drinking around you maybe that's a trigger that's making things challenging. If this is a relationship that's important to you, it may be worth doing these two things. First, figure out what you need to stay sober and whether the current situation is making this harder for you than it needs to be. Second, communicate that to him and ask for whatever support you need.
I think it can make you feel pretty alone if the people closest to you don't know what's happening or if you don't feel like they're 100% on your team. And feeling alone isn't good for anyone - especially someone trying to make big, important changes like sobriety.
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Learning experience how we all are vulnerable to that moment when we are defenseless and we need to develop tools and a strategy including phone numbers of people who we can reach out to like a sponsor or someone(s) with experience and sober time. Sounds kinda weird but I’m glad you barfed!
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You have been honest here! 
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We are only as sick as our secrets. Honesty is the best policy. They should respect you for it if they are a true sober support. Thanks for sharing though. That's the hardest part.
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Hello Emily. It sounds like to tried a swig, threw it up, and decoded not to continue drinking. I'd say the end result is good for decoding to stay sober and focus on the wonderful things you like to do sober. If you owe it to someone to talk about the experience I would deliver it just like that. Stay strong, you're on the right path.
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Thank you for the advice everyone! So with all your encouragement I decided to talk to my boyfriend. He thanked me and told me how proud of me he was for being honest about… I use to lie ENDLESS when it came to drinking. He also made me aware that what I had drank was actually cooking wine he lost the cap for so had left on the counter 
I feel like this situation was definitely an awareness check for me and I’m grateful for it and for all of you!
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WHY did you drink it?
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I'd say be honest and accountable. Take it one day at a time and focus on your goals. You got this.
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Please don’t beat yourself up. You made a mistake. Learn for it and move on. You’ve got this.
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It's not a big deal unless it becomes a big deal. Do better, right? Tell dummy not to leave wine lying about.
What’s done is done !! Dust yourself off and move on and don’t look back .. Refocus and you’re on the right track !! Welcome back
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U tell them tht Wht they are there for … u have to tlk to someone and dnt feel guilty tht just make it worse for y love I would know I’ve been there and u jus try no to let it happen again and get back on right track PERIOdT
It’s up to you. Its your journey of sobriety. If keeping the slip to yourself bothers you to the point it could result in another relapse, then I’d say let it out and move on. If you want to keep it to yourself then do that, but it could be a gateway to more bad habits. Be careful!
Sorry you had to learn that lesson the hard way. Your first reaction should have been to contact your support group before you drank it.
Share your experience, record your new sobriety date and they will respect your honesty.
Word to the wise;
Dump your boyfriend and keep to yourself until you get some serious sobriety time under your belt.
Ŕelationships where one drinks and the other doesn't creates tension sooner or later.
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It was one gulp. Not a bender. Try not to beat yourself up over it. Treat it as a learning opportunity. Good for you for reaching out on this site. I’m sure your support group will accept and appreciate your honesty.
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