Almost 2 years sober with no intent on ever drinking again but being a non-drinker is one of the loneliest places I have ever found myself. Coupled with depression or whatever you want to call it, I just don’t want to do this much longer. Its not even about romantic partners. I can’t even find a friend to hang out with. And dating apps are the absolute worst!
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Have you tried any sober fellowship groups? If you have, maybe it’s time to try again. All it takes is one or two friends to make a huge difference. Don’t give up
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Bro, go to a meeting. Why would you get sober just to be miserable? AA isn’t a punishment, it’s a blessing. It’s given me the best relationships I’ve ever known.
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Have you looked into a therapist or psychiatrist for the depression? It helped me tremendously…. I could understand the loneliness, it is hard to find sober friends but hang in there! 
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I go to meetings. A lot of them. They last an hour then people go home, or somewhere else that I am not
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This is the exact reason I think I want to get a dog. Loneliness is normal and it's hard especially when I've been coping with a drink to take the edge off for so long. But my mind and body feel so much better sober. Most days I have to force myself to get out there and do something and Im finding the more I do the better I feel. Keep going you got this
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Do any of the groups in your area do anything in regards to fellowship get together? Go ahead and get yourself a phone list and reach out to like minded people. If you haven’t already that is.
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Beautifully said
Meetings help with the loneliness. There are so many people in AA who know what you’re going through because we all have addict brains so we get each other.
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Try volunteering in your community. There are so many opportunities to get involved and help others while you help yourself!
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Are you religious? If so, churches have communities. Also, graduate school or continuing education is full of women if you are interested...just an idea.
There is a group called the Pheonix. It’s an active recovery community that offers free events for people in recovery. All the events are free the only requirement is 48 hours of sobriety. It’s a great way have fun and meet people!!
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Loneliness and boredom are my biggest triggers. I get it. Reach out to family. Keep posting here. You are not alone!
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You’ve got this! Hang in there🙏
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Sounds like you’re at meetings, not in meetings. Do you have a sponsor and a homegroup? What about a service commitment? Are you showing up early and staying late? Getting phone numbers? Sharing during burning desires?
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This ^^^ is great feedback. Please take action Christopher. This your life. Your happiness is your responsibility. Drinking will only lead you down a path of destruction. Try a few mens meetings. I just left one this morning. A few guys shared, and they had almost 200 years of experience between them. The meeting after the meeting was even better. I highly recommend mens meetings. Do yourself a favor my brother
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Don’t worry it’ll get better, if you put in the efforts. This is an adventure! Go to 90 different meetings in 90 days. Go to live meetings, get numbers, give ur number to people you admire and actually contact them. Invite them to hangout, accept offers to go to meetings and events.
You’ll see, life will not be lonely or boring😊