This was hard for me in early sobriety

Today I’m practicing on how I can forgive others for their mistakes as I wish for others to forgive me for my mistakes.
I had wished pain on my ex wife in early recovery as I didn’t know how to deal with my emotions.
I can pray or meditate on the thought of peace and well being for all that I’ve hurt and that have hurt me.
Tell me, are you at this stage in your recovery?