That is the true question. Not drinking almost seems like the easy part. Now to deal with me. I’ve been walking around in a fog trying to find my way. I have no want to interact with anyone. I just want to isolate myself and sort this all out. The numb and empty feelings. Alcohol made me want to get out and be social. Did anyone else just want to self isolate?
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Yeah for sure. I still struggle with that. When I was drinking I wanted to go out and see people. Now I find myself alone more often than not. It’s actually become a problem how much I’ve been isolating but I’m way more productive in other areas like work
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I would drink alone all the time too don’t get me wrong but I would also go out to bars, parties and other places. I definitely need to hit meetings and find some community being sober
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Yeah i understand. I’m more productive, with tasks around my house I’ve been putting off, work and my cognitive skills are getting so much better. As far as hanging out with anyone, I’d rather just be alone. I have no desire to be social. I’m wondering if I was always a loner and drank to be someone I never was 
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Yeah I totally get it. I wonder if over time it will change. I think I’ll have to put myself in some uncomfortable situations around people I don’t know and see how it goes. Meetings are the best place to start because we all have the same common goal but yeah I don’t have the desire to be around people either I know exactly where you’re at
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I’ve been sober over 2 years and realize I just simply like quiet nights alone and since I like to be active outdoors in the daytime, I make myself invite people w/me to walk, x country ski, paddle or whatever it is I want to do. The balance of spending a few hours with a friend feels healthy, then I savor my night alone w/my little doggo.
Making myself get out of my comfort zone and going to AA meetings is the latest thing I do to push myself to grow. Daytime meetings. 
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I feel ya. Super common. Baby steps in joining sober community helps. Meetings help. Reach out anytime:heart:
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It gets better and better. The promises are real. Just keep showing up. I’m supporting you! You are so worth it.
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For now all I can’t focus on is not drinking, I hope these feelings will change soon
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Thank you. All I can do is one day at a time at the moment
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Can definitely relate. With me the longer I've been sober the more I like being alone. Guess I just dislike people 
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Push yourself, interact. Meet some sober ladies for hangouts and such. Get out of your head. Get out of your house and be helpful to others that are struggling.
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Isolation is normal but don’t stay too long living in your head all by yourself.
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It’s actually a relief to know that this is happening to other people.
Most of my old friends still drink or smoke. I seem to be more content just spending time in the garden or in the mountains. Hoping to find a sober crowd to hang with someday.
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Thanks, I’m gonna try to mingle a little with some other sober moms
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That’s probably why I don’t want to hang out with them anymore. I’m trying to break the habit and they remind me of what I used to do. So for now I just want to keep to myself until I’m strong enough to be around others that drink. So I completely understand. I feel the same as you, nature is so peaceful to me and I just want to walk and admire the beauty of the things I didn’t see before
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Thank you!!! I feel better already 
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…I have a very extroverted side…while prefer being around animals and nature…more than many other humans.
I do not like the way society operates overall…so being by myself, I welcome.
Guess this makes me what is known as an ambivert(?)…if labels are needed?
Alcohol made me withdraw and isolate myself.
It made me feel sorry for myself while also increasing my self-loathing.
I was also a complete
a$$ when-while drinking.
Congratulations on remaining sober, Liz!
The freedom which sobriety offers is priceless.
Hope that you are doing well.
Keep us posted!
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