Tomorrow is day 19 for me. I have 4 people coming to my place for wine and cheese before dinner. My dilemma…I’ve been saving a nice bottle of wine for people who would enjoy it. (I have always opted for cheap box wine.) I would like to have 1/2 glass. What do you think? Am I making a mistake?
Ahhh, seriously?
Thanks Kevin. I can always count on you for the truth
Don't drink. I wouldn't recommend you serve alcohol. You're new and would more than likely struggle. If you want the fancy experience you can get sparkling grape juice.
Well missy, it’s like this. I would smoke dope. So I quit. But I got friends coming over who get high. For dinner. Now it’s cool if they get high just so I don’t. I’ll just sit there and watch them smoke dope. It won’t bother me to smell that smoke. That’s their thing. Not mine. I quit. So I get a whiff. No harm. I’ll still be sober and clean with a buzz. But I didn’t smoke it. They did. Thing is, alcohol is no different. A drug is a drug. If I say around watching people drink in my place what would be the difference? I might as well drink also. I’m an addict and to stay sober I need to change everything I use to be. Meaning I need to set boundaries. And in my world, a huge unforgivable boundary is NO anything near me. Take away the temptations and I have one less thing to worry about. It’s hard enough living day to day sober without having vices in my face. Why tempt fate? Sobriety is about change. Change the insanity to sane living.
Amanda. I’ve already invited these people for wine and cheese. Three drink wine; one drinks Diet Coke
Meetings
While newly sober if you put your self in situations where you could relapse that is a bad idea. For an alcoholic there isn’t any “good” bottle of wine. Don’t pick up and go to a meeting.
I’d uninvite them. Give someone the bottle of wine. Go to a meeting instead. And then go home and eat all the cheese.
Seriously, that is exactly what I would do.
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Kevin! I did it!! Our friends came for wine and cheese before dinner. I made a beautiful cheese board and opened the nice bottle of wine. I smelled it when I opened it and it really didn’t smell all that good. My friends came. Some drank wine which I poured and served and some drank beer. Me? I drank Sparkling Ice lemonade served in my Waterford crystal.
I honestly think this is the first time in YEARS that I haven’t started drinking before friends arrive and continued through the evening.
Thank you for calling me out, Kevin. It worked. I’m so proud of myself!!
Well, you passed this time. Problem is this disease never quits. It’ll sit back and wait. Good luck.