This will be only my second sober Thanksgiving in the last 20 years and I did not go last year because I was fresh out of rehab November 17th. I can’t help but wonder what it’ll be like being around 10+ adults enjoying themselves. Do I just eat and leave, do I not go, do I suck it up and say f&@$ it? Idk but if anyone else is struggling with anything similar, please chime in.
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Whatever you’re comfortable with. Do they know you’re trying to be sober?
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Yeah, several of them were big influencers on my decision to go to rehab. It doesn’t bother me to see people drink, I work in sales and a lot of meetings are over cocktails or Pepsi for me now. It’s when I see people belligerent and acting inappropriately I can’t handle it.
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I’d go if I were you enjoy 
your holiday seasons and enjoy your friends & family just remain sober and if they influence you to stay sober then no worries I hope you enjoy 
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I honestly take a really unique n/a drink…like the weirdest kombucha flavor, or some crazy seltzer water, ginger drink…something that is almost gross, but not. Then I bring my own six pack…. Like, family can be stressful and triggering. I love mine dearly, but I go back and see an abuser, an aggressive energy that is triggering, abandonment, and my own horrible teenage responses to those every time there’s a family gathering.
I do enjoy my time, but go knowing something will be slightly triggering, so I crack a can sit back and process through the feelings with my drink INSTEAD of drowning them with the drinks I used to.
There is my “unique” coping strategy. Lol
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Yeah I had 3 years and relapsed with people from work. I wasn’t honest about the severity of sobriety. I think it’s good you have a supportive environment. If it gets uncomfortable, you can jam out.