Toxic relationships in recovery today in my group, I would like to discuss about toxic relationships, and recovery. A lot of of us never make it out some of us go back into our old habits some of us end up incarcerated some of us end up dead. This is not a easy task to play with at all when it comes to your recovery you have to think about you being number one. They tell you in the beginning of your recovery in a relationship. Do not try to get into one until after your first year of recovery. They tell you this so you at least you will be able to have worked your steps and become at least somewhat knowledgeable of how to handle another human being since we have not done that socially in our lives first all let me say this I didn’t wait and it ended up badly. My first year was supposed to be about me. That means that it was supposed to be totally selfish not selfless. I ended up in a relationship in it cost me everything today. I have four years of recovery and today I’m sitting here with the love of my life because I did take the time out after the fact of getting in that toxic relationship to relearn myself and to rework my steps, it wasn’t an easy thing to do, but I did it and because of the humility that it gave me and the Riz respect that it showed me from other people telling me how strong I was how guided I was, and they now believed that me being ready to date or to get married or whatever it may be was the thing to do, but I did not go through all of that alone I had my sponsor. I had my clothes, my friend I had my best friend I had my church family. I had my family. I had a full recovery family that you couldn’t even imagine how strong they were how bad they were and what they taught me as a result of all of that today I’m able to be the strong mother, the strong daughter, the strong sister, a strong friend that’s strong wife, and so many other strengths have come forward in my life. I can face the drama in the chaos of the world today because of the steps that I worked early on in my recovery and the people that I call on when I’m going through, I don’t go through anything alone without consulting my sponsor and my church family I do not go through any situation any drama any chaos without playing the tape all the way to the end and yes, I’ve lost a lot. I’ve lost family. I’ve lost friends. I’ve lost associates I even had to change my Church, but as a result of all of that today, I’m able to sit here and I’m able to sponsor someone else and guide them where they need to go I’m able to talk to you guys and put down knowledge on recovery through my Pages. I’m starting up my podcast. I’m just currently tweaking it because I’m waiting on my daughter to help me finish, guiding me through the steps but once I get that I will be posting that as well for anybody who wants to jump in and hear anything about recovery it’s gonna be a runoff. I’m gonna do it every two hours and then I may come back every three hours after so a total of three group three meetings in a 12 hour period but I’m doing this not only for myself but for my family and for my safety and for it to bring somebody else out of the darkness because I know that that’s not a happy place. It’s a temporary fix for us to be able to deal with our problems. It is not a problem solver to wear the point where you are sitting there high and wondering if you’re gonna make it through what I am offering any, and everybody is a solution to our problem, the problem of NA, the problem of celebrate recovery, the problem aa these groups are the main groups that teach us about recovery. What I’m gonna teach you about is how to get down to the nitty-gritty of any in every situation and some people may not agree with what I asked what I say, but I promise you every bit of it is going to come from the ANNA and celebrate recovery handbook it will not be specifically sold up on my advice for anybody to follow because I don’t want to leave anybody wrong so with that being said ladies and gentlemen, I hope you join in on my podcast. I will kick off at 11 AM tomorrow morning for sure and I do want to see the crowd or have everybody time in. I love you all thank you all for being a part of my recovery groups where I post positive things throughout the days or weeks or whenever I get a chance to post on, but the podcast is going to be my main stream of reaching out to everyone in recovery or people who are wanting to get clean in the first place the idea is to to give away what I have learned so somebody else can teach somebody Else. I love you all. Stay positive and see you at 11 AM tomorrow morning.
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