Triggers

Recovery
#1

I am just now realizing that my partner is my biggest trigger. He was out of town for the weekend, I had zero urges to drink, didn’t even think about it once. I felt positive and motivated to take care of myself.
He came back this morning and wanting to drink soon followed. It’s so eye opening to be able to recognize that a huge part of the problem is in my own home. He doesn’t realize that the way we interact isn’t healthy for me, despite his good intentions.

Has anyone else had to deal with something like this while trying to stay sober?

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#2

I was in a relationship for 3 yrs before I realized I was in a CONSTANT state of stress and defense. I was never taking care of myself because I was too wrapped up in keeping him happy

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#3

I was in a situation kind of similar. When I was clean and sober and he wasn’t it was really tough. I only was successful when i put a lot of space there. I think the earlier you address it and make it clear than the better you will be. You can’t change other ppl no matter how much you love them. In hindsight clear boundaries are essential.

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#4

Facts sounds like my old marriage

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#5

From my experience if your partner is an alcoholic I wasn't able too Stay sober but I know some people who they were sober before there partner so idk for me I'm super codependent so I never could.

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#6

…my partner of five years was not an alcoholic, he hated alcohol.

I was the addict.

I became sober and maintained my sobriety for pretty much two years…during the relationship.

Realities still s-cked.
I needed to leave.
Incredibly hard to begin life over at 45.
That was six years ago.

I relapsed while still in the relationship.
I drank more and more after leaving and returning to my family’s home…can we say trigger central?
Where I grew up, I mean.

I felt like an utter failure in life.
I drank to numb out so much pain.

I decided to become sober again in January of 2022 and have not had a drop of alcohol in over two and a half years.

I am in the midst of a series of days where I am physically sick and also, mentally-I have been going down rabbit holes.

These realizations-what you are going through…are tough…while often necessary.

Many people have been through what you are going through…you are not alone.

Let us know how you are doing!:peace_symbol:

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#8

Yes why I’m not with her lol

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#9

What makes you stay?

#10

Yes try to see if you both can make healthier decisions together like food drink less etc

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#11

Yes, 10 year old relationship and my booze addiction went out of control progressively during that decade. Got divorced and my urge for drinking almost disappeared lol

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