When I got home yesterday my husband was smashed between drinking and THC. He was stupid wouldn’t listen screwed up the TV remotes. Was making loud moaning noises because he has a lot of pain. I finally just went to bed with emotions of triggers, anger that I can’t drink. Just totally upset me. When I asked him why he said you tell me to relax but then you get mad. Mind you he only drinks once in awhile but he is a binge drinking. I have already gone through this Saturday and then yesterday. Spoke to sponsor today. Just need to regroup today.
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Good idea to call a sponsor. Keep connected to sober people. You can make it
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Your tracker says you been AF for over a year? If I had to put up with that behavior for over a year I think I might be changing my environment!! Just sayin:man_shrugging:t3: 
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Ugh. When I'm sober I can't stand drunk people 
and I'm sure when I'm drunk sober people can't stand me 
hope all is well and better today. Be still and focus on your sobriety. His actions are out of your control. If you drink, you will only be hurting yourself. Positive vibes your way.
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Facts Amiga:call_me_hand:t3:
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Not at this point in my life. Others have said that. I change my environment by going out with my friends reading and recovery meetings. Almost 50 years together. Don’t feel like dealing with that
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I am wishing I could sit at a bar today but still continue to make connections today. Not going back.
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Good for you, sober life is 90/10. 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react. You’re here, hanging in there and that’s the best reaction. Tell him sobriety comes first today and go to the mall if you have one or even just wander through Walmart and just pray and breathe. I’ve done both many times 
keep up the good work 
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I am out and about. Thank you. I just am too old 🥲 to end a 50 year relationship. Most times I can deal with things. Just dealing with too much health issues so everything is making me angry. I will reach out to as many as I have not to drink again.
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I already have another friend on standby.
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Good for you. And no I don’t think it’s never too late. I walked away after 28 years at the age of 43. I won’t say it’s been easy because it hasn’t. But it was the right choice, for me. And I’ve found freedom I never knew I was depriving myself of. But at least you are in the right place, have good coping skills and a desire to keep from drinking. We all only have today🥰
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If it got really out of control I have no problem ending this but that would be a last resort.
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I hear ya! 
Absolutely. I wonder if I was the ignorant and stupid.
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Other people drinking and using doesn’t trigger me. I don’t serve alcohol in my house and don’t let anyone bring any booze or drugs in. But Tuesday night I went to an event where everyone was drinking and I had zero desire to pick up…cuz after nearly a decade in recovery, I can “think the drink through,” and my last drunk ended with me almost dying of alcohol poisoning. I happily stuck with Perrier at that event, because I like living, and I dislike the way I felt while I was recovering from alcohol poisoning and going through withdrawals. I don’t ever want to feel like that again, so I’m staying off the sauce no matter what anyone else does.
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Has he gone to Al-Anon or talked to a therapist about how to best support your recovery? You’re doing a lot of hard work and if he’s not growing with you that divide will only get bigger
Yes he has met with my counselor and my neighbor is a good friend and in recovery 9 years. He has had several talks with both of us. Al-Anon no. He won’t go to a meeting he did that when I was in residential rehab the first time. Not a good experience