How does anyone deal with trusting again after you've sobered up and are aware when people lie to you or scam you?
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When people try to lie to me or scam me, I see it almost automatically. At first early in it would p*ss me off & offend me. Nowadays I don't care as much, almost feel sorry for them that they're still at a point as such in their lives and I move forward....
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It’s not easy.. I have severe trust issues. It’s taken time and professional help. To help me with these issues and it’s something that has prevented me from enjoying my clean life and pushing ppl away and made me relapse a few times. Now I just push these thoughts away and replace them with where is the evidence of theses feelings. I’ve learned that feelings aren’t facts and some days are easier than others. I hope you continue to remain clean and it’ll get better
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I’ve finally learned that I can’t control others. Only how I react / handle the situations. In some cases, ignoring and walking away is best for me. Other times I feel the need to stand up for myself (but sometimes that’s dangerous for me bc it opens the door for their ‘retaliation’). I think this might be something you’ll need to try different ways and see what works best for you. Good luck!!
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Don’t trust anyone to be who you think they should be. Trust them to be who they show you they are. Don’t give away your power and just move accordingly. It only hurts when you have a misplaced expectation that the person is or is not a certain way. You deserve to be treated kindly, that starts with you. Treat yourself kindly by not giving away your power.
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Hmm must be a fake account.
So to answer the question.
Trust 95% of what people say and 5 % of what they do.
Honestly, trust won’t just come right away, but it’ll grow as you grow.
You don’t have to open up right away, just keep your heart soft, and your standards strong. That’s all. You’re just learning how to protect your boundaries and connected at the same time. And that’s growth.