It’s not about toughening up.
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Mike, it is about learning how to live life on likes terms and how to use the knowledge and wisdom of those who have been there to change you!!!! Slowly and gently with care and love….allow yourself to be taught….sobriety is earned not provided…become amazing!!!!
Keith Kayle
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Ugh, those all drove me nuts! 
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But people did say them 2 you and now you are sober... I just think we need to let other people get sober how they get sober you have to be careful not to tell people what to say and how to act that chart is way outside of any type of recovery thing I've ever heard so I just want to say that it's not a big deal
Huh?
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The point is simply that the person undergoing crippling , severe anxiety is sometimes told by well meaning family or friends ( even therapists!) these responses that only frustrate and are never helpful. I know this first hand .
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How would you respond /react if a loved one or even a clinician responded to your severe panic and anxiety- “ just relax” get over it” you’re over-reacting” ? It shows that they are not on board with the understanding and compassion in dealing with you in a helpful way.
I'm glad you're supposedly staying sober that's the best thing about this conversation however all that other stuff about what I'm not allowed to say to you that's not going to work buddy you'll drink over that for sure
It is aboit toughening up!!!!!!!
We all have differing views and we may not always agree with information expressed in psychology texts like this one. So , you do you and please let me do me.
By bringing up how much sobriety you have to show you know all the answers shows that you are petty and immature- why are you still commenting on my post?
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You’ve been blocked and reported but you still won’t go away. You came after me maliciously
See what I’m dealing with?
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What the Dickens just happened? I 100% agree with Mike as that's how i understood the post. Those phrases most often were never helpful. Also, again, I feel people need to relax a bit on how one processes/ continues to practice their sobriety. I understand the "toughen up" to a certain degree, but with that, someone who is saying those phrases should try and learn patience and kindness if they truly want to help. As everyone lnows, this isn't an easy battle, so the "toughen up" approach may not work for all. Just my thoughts.
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Thank you for this!!! This is something that reminds me to have grace not just on others anxiety but my own as well
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