I’m really tired of being treated like I’m not doing enough. I’ve been sober for almost a year (my sobriety date is June 14 2024) after surviving a five-year addiction that nearly killed me, and now I’m finally going back to college at the end of this month for the first time in four years and, working on acting and music, and rebuilding my life and facing my trauma and healing which is already a job in itself. I just get told that I can’t multitask ? Like bro, I’m fighting my Demons in my head all day as I’m trying to rebuild my life so I could proceed with the career I want. But my family doesn’t get it. Sometimes they make me think. Do they even care that I survived I do, but do they??? My mom compares me to people who never went through what I did, and my brother who’s only had one job in his whole life for two months and quit — calls me a loser just because my path looks different. My mom doesn’t bother him about working and he’s in college. Like he’s clearly the favorite child. I’m not allowed to be different in this family. They act like i’m a loser and think I won’t be anything in life just because I’m different and also because I don’t have a job right now and apparently that means I’m not trying, but healing is a full-time job. I have bad days. Really bad days. And I’m doing what I need to do to stay alive and grow. The pressure, the judgment, the comparisons it’s exhausting. But I’m staying strong, and I’m choosing my path. Anyone else feel this way?
Stay strong and stay the path Emilia…. Remember we can’t control what others think. Let go and let god 
You’re right we can’t change anyone thank you. I needed that right now. I appreciate it. gotta let God do his thing 🩷
What other people think of me is none of my business
Families can be frustrating to deal with at times. I’ve definitely had my fair share of it. I’m sorry you’re going through that and I’m wishing you have more good days than bad. I’m here if you ever need a new friend to talk to 
Thank you so much that’s so sweet. I just friended you.
Stay strong! Every time the thought comes to your mind that says you’re not worthy stop it in its track and remember that you were created with a purpose and God has big plans for you. You are worthy and you are loved. You are a beautiful young lady and I’m sure that things are going to get better for you as you continue to grow and learn in your journey.
When I was getting sober my mom told me that I wasn't really an alcoholic but I thought like one.
Someone who hasn't had to walk our path, no matter how much they live, cannot understand. Keep it one day/moment at a time and this too shall pass
I have talked to you before about your situation at home and I'm glad you are still hanging in there.You are very strong to be able to handle everything you are dealing with no matter what your family thinks. We can only clean our side of the street and we can't control or pass judgment upon others.That is gods job.Have faith and believe in yourself you are an amazing girl.Proud of you!!!!!
Congrats on your 1 year
I'm about to celebrate 25 years. I'm throwing a big party. My mom told the venue that it was a celebration of surviving heart surgery. I called her out. Asked if she was embarrassed by my achievement. I also told her I knew she loved me, but I felt like she was embarrassed. My siblings don't support me either, but they trust me now. They may not ever understand how lucky we are to get guidance from all over the world when they are left with only themselves to figure out the hard stuff. I honestly hope none of my family will ever get to understand what I've been through. I love them, but I love me more.
Getting to this point took a lot of self reflection and support from others who have been there. Stay connected and keep going. You got this!
My family said the same thing that they were embarrassed congratulations that’s incredible. It upsets me that your family would downplay something like that and be embarrassed to tell the venue the truth you’re a warrior you don’t deserve to be treated any less❤️ also thank you so much. I really appreciate it and the same. I don’t want my family to deal with the addiction either and have to go through what I went through either. I just wish that they had more of an understanding and gave me a break, but don’t worry I’m gonna keep fighting for me.🩷
Yessss very very true we have to let go sometimes and let our higher power take the wheel and you’re right we only can clean our side of the street. We can’t make someone do anything. We can’t change anyone either.
Thank you I totally agree and it’s crazy though even though I’m not an alcoholic and I’m a drug addict alcohol has such a freaking stigma where they think it’s not bad or as bad as drugs, but they’re so wrong. Alcohol is one of the most dangerous drugs in the whole world. It’s a terrifying drug so don’t let anyone downplay your battle. I’m proud of you.🩷 thank you for the support🩷
Thank you so much for your support and don’t worry. I always know that I’m worthy and I deserve to continue to figure and better things and I really appreciate what you said that’s very kind I needed that I needed to hear that.🩷
As I'm learning in IOP (intensive out patient) they're grown. They will feel how they feel. They will think what they think. As hard as it may be, let them. I've heard some class mates tell me that they have had to cut family; Blood, out of their lives (temporary or perminant) because they are/were so toxic. I had to do so myself. With my bio mother almost 15 years ago. It's NOT easy. I'll tell you that for free. I'm not stating you should, as they are family. I am stating that you need to be selfish ATM, and do what's best for you and your recovery. Period. At this time, YOU are more important. (Unless you have kids. To me, kids come first. Which is one of the reasons I need and want to quit drinking.) All in all, think about it, if you have a higher power, "pray" about it. Open your heart and listen. This is YOUR recovery. Not theirs. They might not understand now, or even later. Hopefully they will come around. Be prepared, and stay strong. I hope that this got to you with good spirits, as I wrote this with good intentions. I hope you have a blessed day, and a successful recovery. 
Surround yourself with positive support. It's sad, but I limit my time with negative family members. They drain my confidence. Remain focused, you are blessed
Other ppl that haven't been thru what we have know no other way to even try understanding what we went thru, go thru, or are still going thru than to compare us to others that they think are the same as us. But the fact that they are still a part of your life and showing interest in you in any way is a win, some of us never get all of our loved ones back in our lives again. Just know that when it comes to our addictions and the things we do affect them as much as it does us, and they too have to heal from our addictions, it takes some longer than others, and though they may truly never understand without going thru it themselves it'll get better. I always try to look at it positive, be thankful that they haven't been through it, be hopeful that they never go through it, and be forgiving and patient with them like you want them to be with you and most importantly know that forgiving yourself is more important than them forgiving you bc ultimately giving forgiveness is for your own peace, no matter who you give it to.
We have to give grace to the people who love us that we hurt. A year or two of sobriety is not much in the big picture. We spent most of our lives lying and making them helplessly worry about us. As a old timer friends of mine says, "we shouldn't expect a medal or a parade for not killing ourselves with poison". Most of the world automatically knows that and doesn't expect praise for it. Stay sober and stay humble, in time you will earn back thier trust
Sometimes I feel like that! I know I’ve burned all my bridges with my family. Some friends, but I like you , just try to remember everyday, that this is for me and not my family. Well you know what I mean?.. I got to put my feelings and healing process first in my life. Then my family that I haven’t even talked to in probably 8-9 years. At least you have a family that knows you’re doing better. And cares. Because if they didn’t they would not be jawing at your flaws. Your flaws in the drug scene was something they probably got used to doing. Now they don’t have that. So they choose something else. You know you’re as strong as a child of God. That is successful in what you’re striving for. Keep it up! Your inspiration goes far more than you think.